Annie Kaszina The abusive man is looking for someone who will serve him 24-7 in various departments of his life: the bedroom, the kitchen, the finance department, parenting – both of his children, and himself – and so on, and so forth. But more than that, the abusive man is someone who will carry a heavy load of loathing – his loathing both for himself and for other people. He is looking for someone he can dump that load on, forever after.
The effects of emotional abuse may not be immediately obvious to the naked eye.
The effects of physical domestic violence are easily recognizable. But the effects of emotional abuse are easily missable; by the victim, but also by friends, family and even health professionals around the victim.
Why is this the case?
Awareness of emotional abuse, and the […]
How do you know that you need emotional abuse help?
It’s simple really.
Your confidence and self-esteem are at an all time low. Your partner is constantly criticizing all your faults, and you feel so bad that you think he is probably right. But, at the same […]
The way it works is simple enough to see from the outside: one partner criticizes, humiliates, blames, pokes fun at, and finds fault with the other. The abuser disregards, and disrespects, their partner’s feelings. The abused partner feels that something is wrong, but also shoulders the blame, and often feels that whatever happens must be […]
If you have been through years, or even decades, of Emotional Abuse, it is perfectly understandable to worry that you will never get over it. After all, being on the receiving end of emotional abuse is all about being with someone who is hell bent on crushing your spirit.
And let’s face it; emotional abusers are […]
Emotionally abused women are women who become increasingly hurt, troubled, and confused by the way that their partner behaves towards them. They don’t understand why they lavish their partner with everything they have to offer – love, consideration, even money – and yet that partner treats them badly.
Emotionally abused women are loving, forgiving, and generous […]
When you are in it, it’s almost impossible to do. Because being in an emotionally abusive relationship is like being in a maze: all you can do is go up different paths, which almost always turn out to be dead ends. You lack on overview; not least because your abusive partner is intent on closing […]
Falling-In-Love, as far as I can see, is about leaping without looking. Falling-In-Love lays you open to the whole unsavory pack of jerks, abusers, and narcissists. I asked my client whether she would take a job without first finding out about the pay and terms of employment. She sounded surprised. She answered, briskly: “Of course not.” Then she saw the connection. You don’t have to fall in love on Day 1, Day 2, or Day 20. Falling-In-Love is optional, not obligatory – although it is a neat way of silencing the little voice in your head that says: “Er… I don’t think so. This one is NOT for me!”
Most women who are in an emotional abuse relationship have an inkling, or a sense, that things are not as they should be, that their partner’s treatment is not appropriate, or acceptable. However, they also deeply confused. They are confused both by what is happening, and by what their partner tells them. The result is […]
Your husband tells you that you are selfish, self-centred, and you have ruined your his life. What a poor hard done by victim he is! But, also, what a negative, critical, fault-finding, punitive, blaming partner he is. If he’s that unhappy, why hasn’t he left you long ago? Unless, the reason he stays with you is because, actually, he enjoys blaming you for ‘ruining his life’… I’m guessing your husband gets a real high out of telling you how awful you are. Now, in my book, that is selfish, and destructive. It is the hallmark of an abusive man.
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