The questioner, Omar Reyes, of www.icansurvivedomesticviolence.com, answers his own question thus:
“I say that you never fully recover. The scars are always there. But there are various strategies that can be used to help you regain your confidence and your self-esteem…”
I disagree with him, on the grounds of my own experience, the experience of the […]
You may find what I‘m about to say upsetting, but I believe it’s something you really need to hear, if you want to put your life back together.
It’s something that hit me, as much as the delegates at the 7 Wounds Workshop last week.
And it’s all about happiness.
See, I’m guessing nobody ever taught you how […]
What makes it so hard to get over the pain, and the sheer awfulness, of your abusive relationship?
The answer seems obvious.
You might reply: “I’m hurting because of the things he said and did. I just can’t get beyond that…”
And that’s true, of course.
The things your abusive partner said and did have had a very damaging […]
“I don’t know if you can help me…” Roberta said.
Her voice on the other end of the line sounded so young and vulnerable.
It’s always like this at the start of one of my programs. Most of the women on the call don’t really believe things can get better for them, but they’ll give it one […]
What makes a woman stand out?
Good looks don’t hurt. But, if it were just a matter of looks, then your life would probably have taken a very different path. Because one thing I know is this: it’s NOT because you are less attractive, less intelligent or less worthwhile than anyone else that you’ve ended up […]
Does “chemistry” matter?
Most women seem to think it does. In fact, most of the women I’ve worked with say they couldn’t contemplate a relationship with a man, unless they feel more or less instant chemistry with him.
If he’s a nice guy, but there’s no chemistry, then they don’t consider him partner material.
Whereas, if there is […]
Dear Annie,
I am working on getting away from my abusive partner – although I am finding it more and more difficult. I want to start a new life, but something is holding me back and I don’t know what. I guess it’s fear.
Maybe one day I’ll feel strong enough!!!
Jolene
Dear Jolene,
“One day” […]
“How did I learn to care so much what other people think of me, Annie? And how can I stop?”
Nina
Dear Nina,
Let’s see what your question reveals about you.
It shows me that you’re a delightful, caring, warm-hearted, generous-spirited woman. And you’re a people-pleaser, and a permission seeker; you’re desperate for other people to validate you.
Sadly, […]
“Dear Annie,
Something is wrong with my life. I have been divorced from an emotionally abusive man for several years. I am living with a boyfriend who can’t find a job. He doesn’t even seem to care anymore. He doesn’t talk nicely to me. I don’t work either.
My ex-husband and his girlfriend recently bought a house together. […]
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