How Did Your Narcissistic Partner Choose You?

How did your narcissistic partner identify you as a suitable target from Day 1?  What were their criteria – because people as calculating as Narcissists undoubtedly are surely had some criteria in mind?
How could they know, right from the get-go, that you were worth the trouble of pursuing – inasmuch as they ever did pursue […]

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This Is Why You Are Frightened of Emotionally Abusive People

I grew up with a lot of fear in my life.   Perhaps you did, too. At the time, I couldn’t know it but I was actually deeply – and appropriately – frightened of emotionally abusive people. Those people were my family of origin.
My parents both came across as very powerful people. They expected unquestioning obedience; […]

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Should I stop trusting my emotionally abusive husband?

To trust, or not to trust?
Should I stop trusting my emotionally abusive husband? is a question I am very rarely asked.  This is actually quite surprising – when you think that I’ve spent 12+ years working with thousands of women who are waking up to the realization that they’ve been trapped in emotionally abusive relationships. […]

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“My problem is different because…”

My problem is different because…”
“My problem is different because…” is something emotionally abused women tell me, all the time.
One woman explained, recently, that her problem was different – and quite possibly not emotional abuse…because her partner “loved her so much”.  He didn’t say the hurtful things that most emotionally abusive men say.  However, he did make her feel worthless.
Then […]

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The 7 Hidden Rules Of An Emotionally Abusive Relationship

Just suppose there were 7 hidden rules of an emotionally abusive relationship. That would go a long way to explaining why so many  good, intelligent people get hooked into exactly the kind of relationship they really don’t want.
The statistics tell us that 1 in 4 women will undergo domestic violence. Chances are that significantly understates […]

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Why Women Stay With An Emotionally Abusive Husband

Why women stay with an emotionally abusive husband long after they should have left is a mystery to the people who stand on the sidelines looking on. Onlookers cannot understand what drives a woman to keep on giving a toxic relationship chance after chance, in the hope that it will mutate into something beautiful.
Even those […]

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Do Emotionally Abusive Men Know They Are Abusive?

‘Do emotionally abusive men know they are abusive?’ is a question often asked by their emotionally abused partners.
Why do victims of abuse need to ask?
Because they are looking for an answer that will make them feel better.
Do emotionally abusive men know they are abusive? – the preferred answer
When emotionally abused women ask “Do emotionally abusive men know […]

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Emotional Abuse Makes You Poor – In These 3 Ways

Emotional abuse makes you poor.  That is a simple fact of life. Any woman who has ever been in an emotionally abusive relationship knows to her cost that the relationship makes you way poorer than you ever deserved to be.  In every conceivable way.
Yet most women struggle to understand why this was bound to happen, […]

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Are you too sensitive for an emotionally abusive partner?

Are you too sensitive for an emotionally abusive partner? Is that – another – fault he reproaches you with? Is it possible that he could be right, albeit for entirely the wrong reasons?
This weekend, I held my first workshop in Denmark, for a wonderful group of Danish women. Fortunately, their English is wonderful, since my Danish […]

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How Emotional Abuse Steals Your Future

Emotional abuse steals your future
Emotional abuse steals your future. Guaranteed.  So why is that not something most emotionally abused women think about?  Rather, they think, a lot, about the fantasy future they have been robbed of.  Mostly to the point of obsession.
When your partner has morphed into Mr Nasty from’ Prince Charming’  – or other member […]

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The 5 Simple Steps to Healing from Narcissistic Abuse

Over the next 5 days, I'll send you some lessons and tips that I've found have really helped women to heal from narcissistic abuse.  Starting with the basics.

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