When “it is about you”
Yes, abusive men are crazy-makers and they lull you into a kind of trance; they suck you into their highly skewed worldview. That’s true enough, but I don’t think that alone is a complete explanation. If we felt alone in childhood, we may have the yearning for a perfect love, for someone who will always be there for us, through thick and thin… That dream is the big picture we are – often hopelessly – drawn towards. That dream can lead us to be hopelessly attracted to an abusive man. That dream can lead us to become an abused woman.