Mental Abuse Recovery

Different kinds of bad relationships

Wouldn’t it be nice if we only had to experience being ill-treated by one man, and we learned from it never to make certain mistakes again? For most of us, the reality is slightly different. We learn that a certain kind of man treated us badly, in a certain kind of way, and we resolve never to make that mistake again. Sadly, we don’t think that we could be vulnerable to different, but equally calamitous, mistakes. That is precisely why we repeat them.

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“Was I married to your husband?”

Abusive men are much more like one another than they are like anyone else. They are not your fault. We do them, and ourselves, no favours at all when we tolerate their bad behaviour. Like spoilt children, indulging them only allows them to become worse. But, as chronological adults, it is for them to take responsibility for their own behaviour; not us. No matter how much they may tell us that their bad behaviour is our fault, that doesn’t make it true.

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“Why Can’t He..?”

 “Why can’t he behave like a normal person?” Geri asked. Because I was pushed for…

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Wanda’s molehill

“Annie, I don’t know what to do.  Things really are better with my husband,.  He’s…

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One, Actually Two, Big, Fat, Damaging Myths

Farrah is someone who has put a LOT of effort into getting over an abusive…

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Bindweed

The summer of the year my divorce finally came through saw my garden covered with…

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Real Men Don’t Hit Women

Real men do NOT hit women.  That goes without saying.  But if real men don’t…

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“Too miserable to stay, too frightened to leave”

Camilla said: “I’m frightened to tell him it’s over because…” Is that something you’ve ever…

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Are You A Mind-Reader?

Have you ever wanted to do something really quite small, and not dared to? That…

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No fish, please!

How many more fish do you think there are in the sea for you?  Whether…

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The 5 Simple Steps to Healing from Narcissistic Abuse

Over the next 5 days, I'll send you some lessons and tips that I've found have really helped women to heal from narcissistic abuse.  Starting with the basics.