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Why you are suffering with overwhelm and self-isolation

If you grew up in an abusive home, you probably learned to self-isolate and deal with problems, to the best of your ability, alone and unsupported. That is a tough way to live. So, here are some powerful pointers to help you break free of the self-isolation and overwhelm.

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An unexpected parting gift from my whiteboards, no less

We embark on the process of healing from narcissistic abuse with so many shoulds – and shouldn’ts: it should be easy, it should be quick, it should go exactly according to plan… If only healing were as easy as wiping washable markers off a whiteboard with one wave of a wiper. The wounds of abuse go very deep. So, it helps to change the way that you work on them.

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One thing to help you make 2023 a better year

I am not going to be offering you any glib suggestions or predictions for 2023. Instead, I want to share with you one thing that we all can use to do the best with whatever hand 2023 deals us.

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7 Tips to Help You Feel Good About Yourself at Christmas



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Things are so hard for survivors of narcissistic abuse because

Being in a relationship with a Narcissist is never easy. Nor is leaving one. But breaking with the old beliefs and feelings that are part and parcel of every narcissistic relationship is the hardest thing of all. Especially since, half the time, you might not even be aware of how deeply ingrained those beliefs and patterns have become and how profoundly they continue to impact you. Ridding yourself of them is central to your healing.

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“Why am I still so frightened of upsetting people?”

Were you, too, taught to be frightened of upsetting the people who are quickest to upset and distress you? And how do you go about breaking that old pattern? Discover how Narcissists keep you stuck in a time warp of despair and helplessness and what you can do to break free of it – without fruitlessly blaming and fighting with yourself.

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One Key Difference Between Loving and Lovebombing

One key difference between loving and lovebombing
How do you tell the difference between madly in love and lovebombing? That was a question that I found myself asking recently. What are the signs that you want to pick up on?
It happened when my lovely partner and I were dining, quietly, in a favorite restaurant in Venice, […]

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How do you know what was real in a narcissistic relationship?

Was anything real about your narcissistic relationship? Could it all have been a lie? If you struggle to make sense of why it once felt so real, this will help.

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Have you ever felt undermined by a Narcissist’s dark empathy?

Have you ever felt undermined by a Narcissist’s dark empathy?
Have you ever felt undermined by a Narcissist’s dark empathy? Or was “dark empathy” a term that had not even appeared on your radar until now? The clue is in the name: dark empathy implies the Narcissistic art of using something that is – by its […]

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The 5 Simple Steps to Healing from Narcissistic Abuse

Over the next 5 days, I'll send you some lessons and tips that I've found have really helped women to heal from narcissistic abuse.  Starting with the basics.