One big, confusing paradox of narcissistic abuse recovery
Have you ever felt confused – or even discouraged – about what it takes to heal from narcissistic abuse? If so, you are definitely not alone. Often times, it can feel like you need to be some kind of emotional octopus to juggle all the “balls” of recovery, […]
How Do You Stop Loving A Narcissist When You Feel You Can’t?
Nobody ever walks away from a Narcissist without knowing that there is a great deal to dislike about that person. But that doesn’t mean that walking away is easy. On the one hand, you know full well the kind of awful person the Narcissist […]
Can you codify the steps to healing from narcissistic abuse?
Today, I want to share with you the relatable steps not that you should take to healing from narcissistic abuse but the steps that you do take, in the hope that that will enable you to be kinder and more supportive towards yourself along the way. […]
One big, fat narcissistic lie about love you need to recognise
Where do you even start to disentangle the web of lies a Narcissist envelops you in? Narcissists make a point of lying right from the get go – because they are conmen and women who set out to sell you on the most attractive dream […]
Abusers make you feel so resourceless that you need to be very grateful to them for whatever “resources” they deign to share with you – or more accurately boast about to you. Without your abuser – or so the legend goes – you would fail completely, in every area of our lives, And so we come to despair of ourselves. That despair can block you from rebuilding your life any time soon.
You were taught to rely on other people to tell you when you were visible – or even that you could be visible at all. Has it crossed your mind that having an invisible woman around is incredibly useful for these other, narcissistic people?
One of those lies you just don’t forget
What was your parents’ relationship with the truth like? I ask because my trip to Venice – sadly now behind me – brought up a few memories about my own parents’- complicated – relationship with the truth.
Venice, mosquitos and me
My association with Venice goes back a very long […]
How not to spot an emotional abuser
My lovely partner is a stranger to abuse world. He’s never lived there. He’s never had to recover from emotional abuse. So, what had he seen that made him say: “That man is an emotional and physical abuser”.
We were sitting in one of the few coffee bars in Venice […]
How your empathy can hinder your healing from narcissistic abuse
Have you ever thought that your empathy could actually hinder your healing from narcissistic abuse? If you haven’t, I totally get you. It is so counter-intuitive (how is that for a touchy-feely empath-resonant term?) that your superpower could actually have its problematic side. But that is […]
The 5 Simple Steps to Healing from Narcissistic Abuse
Over the next 5 days, I'll send you some lessons and tips that I've found have really helped women to heal from narcissistic abuse. Starting with the basics.