Recovery

Different kinds of bad relationships

Wouldn’t it be nice if we only had to experience being ill-treated by one man, and we learned from it never to make certain mistakes again? For most of us, the reality is slightly different. We learn that a certain kind of man treated us badly, in a certain kind of way, and we resolve never to make that mistake again. Sadly, we don’t think that we could be vulnerable to different, but equally calamitous, mistakes. That is precisely why we repeat them.

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“Was I married to your husband?”

Abusive men are much more like one another than they are like anyone else. They are not your fault. We do them, and ourselves, no favours at all when we tolerate their bad behaviour. Like spoilt children, indulging them only allows them to become worse. But, as chronological adults, it is for them to take responsibility for their own behaviour; not us. No matter how much they may tell us that their bad behaviour is our fault, that doesn’t make it true.

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Could You Be In Denial?

Could you be in denial? Could that have anything to do with why Other People…

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The Sad Story of Sabrina S. Emotionally Abused Wife, and Selfless Mother

If, for whatever reason, you don’t feel able to take on board a sad story,…

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What are you not seeing?

What are you not seeing? Have you ever had the feeling you must be missing…

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2013, YOUR Year

It’s 2013, your year!  Hooroo!  Christmas and the New Year are behind you!  Now you…

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“How can I ever trust again?”

One very common problem faced by women who’ve been through the mincing machine of an…

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“Why Can’t He..?”

 “Why can’t he behave like a normal person?” Geri asked. Because I was pushed for…

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“And… and… and-ing”

Last week, I listened to an interview on Desert Island Discs with Lord Victor Adebowale,…

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“Is it me?”

Wouldn’t it be wonderful if, once an abusive relationship broke up, all the emotional damage…

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The 5 Simple Steps to Healing from Narcissistic Abuse

Over the next 5 days, I'll send you some lessons and tips that I've found have really helped women to heal from narcissistic abuse.  Starting with the basics.