"How
do you respond to a dirty look or hurtful comments that come out of blue when
you least expect it? I’m usually caught
so off guard that I can’t even react or think
until later. I need quick action."
Month: October 2007
“I Love Him So Much I Can’t Let Him Be That Way”
I hope you can help me out..
My boyfriend has become very abusive
towards me.. . But everytime he
keeps does tha6t he apologizes and and cries and it hurts me.. I feel i’m always
at fault.. ..I really love him so much that i cant let him
be this way..I was to be by his side.. But its hurtin me !! What should i do
..
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Tony Blair likens himself to “abused and bullied women”
The support available for abused women in the UK leaves a
lot to be desired. Only recently two
white middle class professional wife beaters were treated with remarkable
leniency by the courts, one because he was “of previous good character”, the
other because “special circumstances” meant he was “unlikely to
re-offend”.
Perhaps it is in this context that we should view ex UK
Prime Minster Tony Blair’s comment, reported in Anthony Seldon’s recent
biography that his treatment at the hands of Gordon Brown’s allies was
"like an abused and bullied wife".
When you are between a rock and a hard place
Have you ever told yourself – and quite possibly friends
and family also – that you know your abusive partner better than anyone else
does?
In some ways you would be right; you would know far more
about his quirks and habits and frailties than anyone else. And in some ways you would be wrong;
How To Fill The Bottomless Pit Of Hopelessness
This
week a friend of mine called to tell me that she was feeling quite
strange. I pricked up my ears and
listened, concerned in case the difficulties she faces in her life had
multiplied.
B.
is a long term friend of mine, someone I knew years before I found out that I
was living in an abusive relationship, years before I understood what her
submissiveness was actually about. I
was a mouthy abused woman, she was a remarkably retiring, undemanding one. I thought that being vocal meant I was
strong and was, initially, horrified to realize that we both bore the same
label.
Our
paths divided for a while and then joined up again. By then I was already engaged in domestic violence research and
recovery. B. became embroiled in another
relationship that turned out to be abusive.