“Help! My Sister’s Bullying Me!”

“Help! My sister’s bullying me. How do I deal with a bullying sibling?” a client asked me this week.
Being bullied by a member of your own family – especially when you are a child –  can be incredibly hard to deal with. Many people underestimate the difficulties of being a child. Having been brought up in […]

Do You Do This, Too?

What sets emotionally abused women apart from other women?
What do you think?
Q:  Is it, do you suppose, that they are in some way worth less?  Are they, in any way, less lovable, less deserving, less womanly, less loving, less able, less attractive, less intelligent, less  anything you could care to name?
A:  No, of course not.  […]

What Do You Need To Know About Bullying?

What do you need to know about bullying? If you’re either in, or recovering from, an emotionally abusive relationship, you really need to know everything you possibly can about bullying. Why? Because to all intents and purposes, bullying and emotional abuse are pretty much  evil twins.  The only difference is the degree of intimacy involved.  […]

“My emotionally abusive partner loves me, really…”

“My emotionally abusive partner loves me really…” is something emotionally abused women often say.  They don’t like being in the dark place that emotional abuse takes them to and, in the best of all possible worlds, they would like to recover from emotional abuse but it’s not that easy for them.  If he loves them […]

One Woman’s Journey to Recovery from Emotional Abuse

Lisa was doing that emotionally abused woman thing and blaming herself for everything.    She found me over the Internet – although, in reality, we only lived about 70 miles apart. She was in one of the darker circles of Hell.  She wanted to recover from emotional abuse, although she had no idea how – or […]

She got this wrong and you probably do, too

So happy..   Angie is the emotionally abused woman who kept telling me how happy she was.  She was 3,000 miles away calling on her mobile via Skype, but she was so excited I would probably have heard her even without the marvels of modern technology. My face was aching from smiling so much.
Now, that’s not […]

How Emotional Abuse Creates A Victim Story

Lisa was in that difficult halfway house between wanting to recover from emotional abuse and wanting to hold on to the relationship with her emotionally abusive partner.  Her brain kept telling her that she couldn’t do both, but her emotions were resisting all the way.  Naturally enough, she could find plenty of reasons why she […]

Does Your Emotionally Abusive Partner Boggle Belief?

Is your emotionally abusive partner’s behaviour mind-boggling?  Does his mind-boggling behavior make it even harder to recover from an emotionally abusive relationship?  Do you find yourself asking: “Why on earth would anyone in their right mind do that?”
Not that I’m suggesting that he’s in his wrong mind.  If, from where you stand, his behaviour looks […]