Why on earth would you settle for Abusive Men 57? The abusive man that you have allowed into your life is not a reflection on you. His awfulness is entirely his own. It is all about him. His vile behavior is not about you, at all. Sure, you have a responsibility for giving an abusive man shelf space in the first place. But you didn’t create him. (Not even if he swears blind that you did!)
Perhaps the environment you grew up in was emotionally abusive; you may have been emotionally neglected – and otherwise ill treated. Or you may just have been programmed to be a total people-pleaser. Either way, you were trained to be exceptionally receptive to an abusive partner. So you, like me, were much more inclined than another woman might be to put in those 10,000 hours (and possibly many further thousands as well).
You see, we grow up, but our fears and anxieties do not – until we do something about them. “Mini-Me” did her absolute best for you when you were younger and she was the only one who could run the show. She’s still doing her best. Without realizing it, you’ve been delegating to her, for all these years.
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