The Effects of Verbal and Emotional Abuse

What are the effects of verbal and emotional abuse? It’s hardly the first time I’ve been asked that. Still, it’s always hard to know how best to answer. Not because it is a difficult question to answer, but one of the key effects of emotional and verbal abuse is this: it feels so overwhelming that […]

Who NOT to Date

 Who’d have thought it? Trinny Woodall (of Trinny and Susannah, “What Not to Wear” fame) is, apparently, giving a public masterclass in Who NOT to Date. – by dating Charles Saatchi, international poster boy for emotionally abusive men 2013, no less. 
What can you say? 
Trinny is younger, thinner, and possibly more widely known, internationally, than […]

How Do You Start Over After An Emotionally Abusive Relationship?

How do you start over after an emotionally abusive relationship when you don’t know how to start over? How do you find the courage to leave an emotionally abusive husband when you’re too frightened to leave, due to fear, guilt, or shame? How do you get over the hurt that, as an emotionally abused woman, […]

How to Stop Thinking Like an Emotionally Abused Woman

Your emotionally abusive partner, has probably left you with 2 abiding beliefs – both of them false, and potentially harmful to you. 
The first is that, really, he has the makings of a Wonderful Man. But, somehow, the Wonderful Man seed inside your emotionally abusive husband has spawned a mutant Horrible Man bush. Still, with enough […]

How do you deal with setbacks?

How do you deal with setbacks?  
Having a relationship with an emotionally abusive man means that you’ve had plenty of setbacks to deal with: including rejection, humiliation, criticism, blame, accusation, being made to feel worthless and unlovable, and much more besides. But what I want you to focus on specifically is: how do you deal with […]

“I used to be a feisty, confident woman…”

“I used to be a feisty, confident woman.  But Mr Nasty has left me feeling small, frightened, and powerless”, one emotionally abused woman said to me this week.
Ain’t that the truth?  
An emotionally abusive man has a real talent for pulling the rug out from under your feet, does he not?  Before we meet Mr […]