Annie Kaszina

Emotionally abusive love is different
Emotionally abusive love is a weird thing.  You have a hunger for the Happily Ever After – quite possibly because, thus far, you have not had too much of the Happy in the Here and Now. So, when someone comes along promising lasting love, you embrace the possibility – even if […]

Have you ever been in a complicated relationship?  If so, did you tell yourself that the fact that it was a complicated relationship made the whole thing somehow more special? Something worth fighting for? In this article, we need to look at what makes a relationship complicated, together with the effects that those complications have […]

What kind of a relationship have you had with Valentine’s Day? And what useful information can that provide about your own relationship beliefs but also about the way that our culture views love and romance? That is what we shall be exploring in this culture. 
When I look back at my own life, from the time […]

“I didn’t realise that it was emotional abuse because it was just so subtle.” is something that a lot of emotional abuse survivors say.  Maybe you have said it yourself.  Some talk about how subtle their partner’s abuse was in the course of a relatively brief  – but damaging -relationship.  Others talk about a partner […]

“Do I really have to move on?” is a question that haunts and confounds the partners of narcissistic abusers.  You have woken up to the fact that the person that you love is an objectionable, hurtful, toxic human being. So, a person could be excused for thinking that you would storm off with ne’er a […]

“I have no confidence after emotional abuse”, my client said.  “I have no confidence in myself, my abilities, or the future. I just don’t see how I can ever pick up the broken pieces of my identity and   put my life back together again.  I’ve been broken into so many pieces that I don’t believe […]

Do you ever feel angry, ashamed, broken or despairing?  Do you ever look at other people feel worth less by comparison?  If you do, then ( despite what you may be telling yourself) you are NOT in any way fatally flawed.  However, you are highly likely to be an empath who is still paying the […]

 In all my years working with survivors of emotional abuse, not one client has ever said, “You know, Annie, I want to be more emotionally resilient.”  Rather they tell me, “I need to have more confidence. I need to be stronger and braver. I need to stop loving – or hating – my partner.  I […]

How was New Year’s Day for you?
When I was with the wasband, New Year’s Eve always felt like a momentous time.  Chiefly because I was always glad to see the back of another terrible year   Every year was terrible because every year is terrible when you have a toxic partner.  There is so much that […]