You Don’t Need To Be Emotionally Abused

Who taught you…?
Dion felt invisible – but like most emotionally abused women she wasn’t even aware what was wrong
“Who taught you that you didn’t matter much?” I asked Dion.
“What do you mean?” she replied.
That kind of blank incomprehension is common in my emotionally abused clients. They’ve been emotionally neglected  -and/or rejected – by key figures […]

10 Keys to Recovery From Emotional Abuse

Get clear-sighted. “But I love him”, is a great justification – if you want to drive yourself half-crazy with misery – otherwise it really doesn’t help you to recover from emotional abuse.. Ask yourself, instead: “What do I love about my emotionally abusive partner? Right here, right now?”
Listen to your internal dialogue. How many nice, […]

“Help! My Sister’s Bullying Me!”

“Help! My sister’s bullying me. How do I deal with a bullying sibling?” a client asked me this week.
Being bullied by a member of your own family – especially when you are a child –  can be incredibly hard to deal with. Many people underestimate the difficulties of being a child. Having been brought up in […]

Do You Do This, Too?

What sets emotionally abused women apart from other women?
What do you think?
Q:  Is it, do you suppose, that they are in some way worth less?  Are they, in any way, less lovable, less deserving, less womanly, less loving, less able, less attractive, less intelligent, less  anything you could care to name?
A:  No, of course not.  […]

What Do You Need To Know About Bullying?

What do you need to know about bullying? If you’re either in, or recovering from, an emotionally abusive relationship, you really need to know everything you possibly can about bullying. Why? Because to all intents and purposes, bullying and emotional abuse are pretty much  evil twins.  The only difference is the degree of intimacy involved.  […]