Everyone feels anxious, right?
“I feel so anxious all the time. But everyone feels anxious, right?” N. asked me … anxiously.
N’s not a client – she’s a friend that I hadn’t spoken with in a while. Life had got in the way. Now she was telling me about a long-held dream which was just about to […]
How do you recover from emotional abuse when you feel broken?
“This is my last effort to reach out to someone for help. My love, whom I thought was my love, started out to be a prince. He made me feel like a princess. I loved the way he made me feel………………in the beginning. I am […]
Who taught you…?
Dion felt invisible – but like most emotionally abused women she wasn’t even aware what was wrong
“Who taught you that you didn’t matter much?” I asked Dion.
“What do you mean?” she replied.
That kind of blank incomprehension is common in my emotionally abused clients. They’ve been emotionally neglected -and/or rejected – by key figures […]
Get clear-sighted. “But I love him”, is a great justification – if you want to drive yourself half-crazy with misery – otherwise it really doesn’t help you to recover from emotional abuse.. Ask yourself, instead: “What do I love about my emotionally abusive partner? Right here, right now?”
Listen to your internal dialogue. How many nice, […]
Your emotionally abusive partner doesn’t want you to recover from his emotional abuse. Why would he? There’s nothing in it for him. Emotionally abusive partners are, by definition, dogs in a manger. Whether or not they move on, they don’t want you to. They measure their power by the power they have to make you […]
“Help! My sister’s bullying me. How do I deal with a bullying sibling?” a client asked me this week.
Being bullied by a member of your own family – especially when you are a child – can be incredibly hard to deal with. Many people underestimate the difficulties of being a child. Having been brought up in […]
What sets emotionally abused women apart from other women?
What do you think?
Q: Is it, do you suppose, that they are in some way worth less? Are they, in any way, less lovable, less deserving, less womanly, less loving, less able, less attractive, less intelligent, less anything you could care to name?
A: No, of course not. […]
What do you need to know about bullying? If you’re either in, or recovering from, an emotionally abusive relationship, you really need to know everything you possibly can about bullying. Why? Because to all intents and purposes, bullying and emotional abuse are pretty much evil twins. The only difference is the degree of intimacy involved. […]
“My emotionally abusive partner loves me really…” is something emotionally abused women often say. They don’t like being in the dark place that emotional abuse takes them to and, in the best of all possible worlds, they would like to recover from emotional abuse but it’s not that easy for them. If he loves them […]
Lisa was doing that emotionally abused woman thing and blaming herself for everything. She found me over the Internet – although, in reality, we only lived about 70 miles apart. She was in one of the darker circles of Hell. She wanted to recover from emotional abuse, although she had no idea how – or […]
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