Month: July 2012

The First Fissure In An Abusive Relationship

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When did your relationship become overtly emotionally abusive, and damaging?
Where did it all start to go wrong?
“Wrong”, so to speak.  You’d got past the first hurdle.  You’d overlooked the ringing of the warning bells, and the waving of the red flags inside your own head, when first you met him.  You’d believed him when he […]

The Sad Story of Tamara Ecclestone

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For the past few days the very edifying story of Tamara Eccelestone’s relationship meltdown has been plastered across the English tabloids.  
Tamara, in case you don’t know, is the daughter of Formula 1 Billionaire, Bernie Ecclestone.  As behoves the daughter of a billionaire, she is beautiful, groomed, famous for being the child of immense of […]

What Did Your Abusive Partner Expect?

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Verbal communication is great, isn’t it?  Words may, or may not, mean just what they say.  They can be a tool for clarity and communication…  Or not.  Like the splendid: “We need to talk”, used religiously in soap operas – by women – to herald searingly honest communication…  Except that it’s not about talking, it’s […]

“The way you treat yourself is…”

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I hadn’t intended to write more about “doing nice” again this week.  I was going to talk about Mr Nasty.  But then I had a light bulb moment I really want to share with you. 
I had an appointment to speak with a woman who said she was a People-pleaser Extraordinaire.   Boy, was she right about […]

You’re Nice!

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You know something?  You’re nice.
And bad things happen to nice people. 
It’s not a punishment for being nice.  It’s an occupational hazard for “doing nice”.
(I’m prepared to labor this point a little, because it really is key.  But abused women don’t get it the first or the second time.  It takes a LOT of getting your […]

Why Should They Care?

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There’s something you need to take on board about people: people don’t all work the same way.
Now, you may be wondering why I’m telling you something so blindingly obvious.  If you’ve been on this earth for more than 5 minutes, you already know that, don’t you?
It’s not quite that simple.  In reality, it seems to […]

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