paul@dickiebirds.studio

Toxic people are scary. But are they really that smart? If you are to salvage your self-esteem from  your relationship breakup and – ideally, a modicum of financial security  – you need to  stay in your own power.  That means not being overwhelmed and intimidated by the games that a Narcissist plays and the fear […]

My beautiful friend Charlotte* received some stunning jewellery from her husband in the course of her long marriage.  The guy had great taste.  Every piece was exquisite and immensely covetable. She wore that jewellery from time to time, with pride but never joy. That worked for Mr Beautiful Jewellery Picker (BJP). This week we need […]

This week we need to talk about healing the wounds of emotional abuse as we have not talked before.  I want to share with you some new insights that might just shed new light on the old problem of how you relate to others and yourself.
If you were brought up with abusive parents, you were […]

Having a relationship with a toxic, narcissistic partner does not leave you as it found you. Rather your abusive partner identifies every anxiety, every low feeling that you ever had and magnifies it.  .Especially if you did not receive all the love and care you needed -and deserved – from your family of origin, then […]

Have you ever had people say to you, “Nobody’s perfect”?  it’s one of those phrases that should be perfectly harmless.    Still, if that  seemingly harmless phrase/judgement  does not land comfortably with you, you’re not alone in that – and you are not wrong. This week, we need to look at the important if uncomfortable learning […]

Wouldn’t it be nice if, early on in an abusive relationship, you woke up and, Poof! just like that stopped loving your abusive partner?  How many years and how much angst could you have saved yourself? If only people worked like that. Sadly, most people do not work like that. You have had to learn […]

“What are the Red Flags you should be looking out for if you want to Narcissist-proof your life?” I was asked.  I settled happily into my chair.  This is, after all, one of my favorite questions since my whole mission is about educating women to safeguard them against repeating painful relationship mistakes.
“Intuition, intuition, INTUITION”, I […]