Annie Kaszina 
Leaving a narcissistic partner is never going to be easy. Most commonly, the abused partner spends painful months and years wondering how they can stay in the relationship and just move on from the hurt and the awfulness. Instead of thinking about how to leave an emotionally partner safely and well.
How best to leave a […]
Can a narcissistic partner change?
Can a narcissistic partner change in a heartbeat when they suddenly realize that they risk losing you once and for all? This is the question that victims of narcissistic abuse constantly ask themselves… in the hope of arriving at their preferred answer.
Today, I want to look at how you can deconstruct […]
How did your narcissistic partner identify you as a suitable target from Day 1? What were their criteria – because people as calculating as Narcissists undoubtedly are surely had some criteria in mind?
How could they know, right from the get-go, that you were worth the trouble of pursuing – inasmuch as they ever did pursue […]
“How do I stop myself from feeling bad?” my client asked. When we started working together, a few weeks earlier, she had been thinking non-stop about her ex. Was he really a Narcissist, or was she the Narcissist? Was everything her fault for not trying harder? Was she making a big mistake?
In fact, she was […]
“Why do you call my narcissistic partner stupid?”
“Why do you call my narcissistic partner stupid?” my lovely client asked. “He was much worse than that. That just doesn’t convey the mean, sick person that he is.”
Needless to say, my client’s ex-partner is a thoroughly horrible individual. He is one of those people who,
Has a short charm-span.
Holds out […]
Why an emotionally abusive relationship can never work is the very last thing that the partner of an emotional abuser thinks about. Instead, that partner will spend a LOT of time thinking about what they can do to make it work.
Whoever said that the victims of emotional abuse aren’t optimistic?
Even if that optimism was misplaced.
When […]
This week, I am wondering how much invisibility has affected your life. I guess the reason for asking is that the week has offered me a couple of unexpected wake-up calls that made me think just how big a part invisibility plays in the mosaic of abuse.
When you stop to think about it, someone who […]
All survivors of narcissistic abuse emerge feeling shell-shocked, diminished and deeply traumatized. Some resolve to rush headlong into the next relationship to exorcise the experience. Others decide that the only way to protect themselves in the future is to steer clear of love and intimate relationships forever after.
Both of these choices are, essentially, coping strategies. […]
Have you ever had that experience when a few unexpected events come together and lead you to a shift in perspective? That is what happened to me this morning.
It started with someone on Instagram who, I feel, has a very dark energy. She posts to the effect that Narcissists are the innocent victims of evil […]
What do you suppose is the most important thing that a Narcissist steals from you? Admittedly, that is one big question. However, it is a big question that needs to be asked. It can only help your healing if you can drill down to the core of the problem. How are you meant to heal […]
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