Annie Kaszina
That’s a serious question, and one I’d like you to think about for a moment: how do you know who you are? (Most emotionally abused women really DON’T know.) Maybe it will help you if I rephrase it:
How do you get a sense of who you are?
Where does that sense come from?
And who would […]
“Dear Annie, What can you do when you have been out of the relationship a while and you’re on a sort of plateau? Life is better (obviously), and you no longer need to “fight” as much, with yourself or him, but you know you’re nowhere near over it? How do you move on from there?” […]
Burying your hurts and your pain may once have been the best way you had of dealing with them.
If you knew, from bitter experience, that you were not going to get your needs met, and your hurts acknowledged, what else could you do?
Unfortunately,“Feelings buried alive never die” as Karol K Truman rightly observes in the […]
The last 12 days have been the hardest of my life.
It began when my beloved partner was rushed into hospital where he spent 48 hours in Intensive Care, on a respirator, heavily sedated.
We have not been together long – less than three years – and we are not married. But he is my partner in […]
My client was struggling with what she needed to do. She had not one man but two in hot pursuit. One was her ex-partner who – in the way of abusive men – had discovered he ‘truly loved her’ now she wasn’t returning his texts or phone calls any more. The other was her self-appointed […]
The past few days have been monumentally difficult. My beloved partner is in Intensive Care and, for the moment, I’ve had to postpone some private client appointments.
I’d like to share with you a couple of replies I’ve received to the emails of apology I’ve sent.
One said:
“I wish your partner a quick recovery.All the best to […]
“I still don’t understand my own behavior. When my partner started pushing me around physically, I left. Before that, I let him literally run my life! He was emotionally abusive and had HUGE control issues. Yet, I didn’t see his behavior for what it truly was for a very long time. I just coped, and […]
The questioner, Omar Reyes, of www.icansurvivedomesticviolence.com, answers his own question thus:
“I say that you never fully recover. The scars are always there. But there are various strategies that can be used to help you regain your confidence and your self-esteem…”
I disagree with him, on the grounds of my own experience, the experience of the […]
You may find what I‘m about to say upsetting, but I believe it’s something you really need to hear, if you want to put your life back together.
It’s something that hit me, as much as the delegates at the 7 Wounds Workshop last week.
And it’s all about happiness.
See, I’m guessing nobody ever taught you how […]
What makes it so hard to get over the pain, and the sheer awfulness, of your abusive relationship?
The answer seems obvious.
You might reply: “I’m hurting because of the things he said and did. I just can’t get beyond that…”
And that’s true, of course.
The things your abusive partner said and did have had a very damaging […]
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