Inside Every Emotionally Abusive Husband

Trying to understand her emotionally abusive husband is something every woman tries – and fails – to do.  She fails because she can’t understand how her emotionally abusive husband (or partner) can possibly be the way he is. Because she is loving, loyally, and deeply committed to the relationship, she believes that he must be, […]

How To Recover From Emotional Abuse

How to recover from emotional abuse is just one of the conundrums facing any woman who has ever been in an emotionally abusive relationship.  Sadly, there are a few others as well, like: “How could he treat me that way?”  “What’s wrong with me?” and “Will I ever get over this enough to live, love […]

What Comes After Emotional Abuse?

What comes after emotional abuse?
What comes after emotional abuse is THE big question, the question that all emotionally abused women do – and don’t – ask themselves.  I say that both as someone who has been there and done (and not done) that, and as someone who has supported hundreds of other women as they […]

Who’s The Needy One In An Emotionally Abusive Relationship?

Who’s really the needy one in an emotionally abusive relationship is something emotionally abused woman don’t ask themselves. Why would they? It’s so counter-intuitive.
The dynamic of an emotionally abusive relationship works like this:

You meet this man
He is initially very keen
You respond – possibly despite initial misgivings
He sweeps you off your feet… and into a supporting […]

What Happens to Emotionally Abused Women In Counselling

What happens to emotionally abused women in counselling is not always what you would expect. It would be hard to overstate the hopes of emotionally abused women who go into counselling and/or therapy.  Now, finally, they have found someone who will be in their corner and help and support them on their journey to recovery.
Sadly, […]

What Happens To Emotionally Abused Women?

“What happens to emotionally abused women?” is such a vitally important question that it can be answered in several ways.   In this article I’m going to relate it to the question that emotionally abused women inevitably ask themselves in one form or another:
“What has happened to me?”
When women ask themselves that question underlying it is […]

What Emotional Abuse Teaches You

 

What do you really learn from emotional abuse?  Usually the first thing you learn is the wrong thing; specifically that it’s all your fault.  While there are vitally important things that you are much slower to learn – not least that the reason why your partner behaves so badly because he is emotionally abusive. It […]

Are You Worried About This, Too?

Are you someone who worries – a LOT?  If you do, it’s not helping you.  On the other hand, for anyone who’s ever been in an emotionally abusive relationship worrying goes with the territory.
In my time I could out-worry pretty well anyone on the planet – except perhaps another emotionally abused woman.  We’ve all earned […]

The 7 Signs Of An Abusive Relationship

How do you know when you’re in an emotionally abusive relationship?  Most likely, you don’t,- for the longest long time.  All you do know is that something is terribly wrong.  Unfortunately, nobody has ever taught you to recognise the 7 tell-tale signs of an abusive relationship.
Over time you become more confused , hurt and unhappy  […]

Verbal Abuse – do you even recognise it?

Verbal abuse does untold harm – and yet it largely passes unnoticed: you only have to think of that old saying: “Sticks and stones will break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” That was something my father – who was no slouch when it came to using words that, allegedly, never hurt – […]