Annie Kaszina “ Emotional abuser, or narcissist, Annie?” E. asked. For a lot of women, whether or not their partner is an emotional abuser – or Narcissist – becomes the most important question. Someone has to be accountable for the mayhem in the relationship. If their resident tormentor and fault-finder is emotionally abusive and/or a Narcissist, then he is, […]
An emotionally abusive relationship is a journey into darkness. It’s like venturing further and further into a fog; one of the – now fabled – pollution-generated fogs we used to have in the UK. Those fogs were rightly called ‘pea-soupers’ because they were as thick and solid as a split-pea soup. (Well, my split-pea soup […]
Let’s start with the basics. Emotional abuse is incredibly hard to recognise for what it is, let alone deal with, when you’re in it, because you can’t possibly see it for what it is. As you see it, you’re in a relationship with another human being – it’s about you and him.
In practice, something very […]
I don’t normally talk about bodily functions – because I have standards, too. But this could be one of the most important pieces of information I’ve ever shared about emotional abuse. That’s why I’m prepared to stick my neck out – even to the point of using that ‘F’ word!
Because it feels so important to […]
Why you can’t just “bounce back”
Emotional abuse is not something you just bounce back from. If someone simply said something hurtful and unfair to you a few times then, chances are, you would bounce back. But that’s not how emotional abuse works, is it?
Emotional abuse is systematic, deliberate, long-term, and tailor-made to chip away at […]
Could you be in denial?
Could that have anything to do with why Other People shake their heads, and express amazement that you ‘just can’t see what’s going on and walk away’?
Is Denial something you’ve even stopped to think about?
If you haven’t, perhaps you should.
Original it ain’t, but it still merits repetition: “Denial is not a […]
Where do you start your recovery from emotional abuse? When you’ve been in an emotionally abusive relationship for a while, there comes a time when you realize that something is profoundly wrong. There’s a lot of unhappiness, and a lot of accusations and put downs; nothing ever seems to get resolved; in fact nothing seems […]
When you are in a relationship with an emotionally abusive man, you are always aware of the judgments of Other People. They’re like a Greek chorus commenting on your life. You just know they spend their time wondering, none too compassionately, “Why does she stay?”
Mostly, there are plenty of good reasons why you stay: like finances, […]
It can be hard to see what makes an emotionally abusive partner so attractive – unless we’re talking about your emotionally abusive partner; in which case none of the usual, normal criteria apply. As a general rule, emotionally abusive partners are dogmatic to the point of arrogance, self-important, opinionated, inconsiderate, self-centred, touchy, a tad humorless, […]
How not to react to an emotionally abusive husband is one of the most important lessons you will ever learn. It’s also the thing that will have the greatest effect on your quality of life, peace of mind and, even, your finances.
Please understand, I’m not talking about how not to react to his hurtful comments […]
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