Annie Kaszina Who do you learn how to deal with abusive people from?
How to deal with abusive people is, quite probably, one of the most essential recovery skills you need to learn. It’s also the skill that abusive people really don’t want you to learn, for obvious reasons.
Normally, the people from whom you learn how to deal […]
Emotional abuse leaves you feeling hopeless. It’s blindingly obvious. I have yet to meet a single emotionally abused woman who hasn’t experienced intense feelings of hopelessness. And yet nobody actually recognizes how profoundly those feelings affect them.
Certainly, emotional abuse does strange things to the victim’s brain.
I’m not going to try to blind you with science […]
What happens when you learn to walk on eggshells?
Have you ever walked on eggshells around an emotional abuser? Did you learn how to walk on eggshells from an early age? Has walking on eggshells become a way of being that affects every area of your life – whether or not you are still with an […]
The inner cringe at emotional abuse is something that anyone who has ever been in a toxic relationship has done a thousand times. The word “cringe” itself – defined as to: “bend one’s head and body in fear or apprehension or in a servile manner” describes perfectly how an emotional abuser teaches you to respond.
It […]
Why abandonment escapes attention
Emotional abuse and abandonment go hand in hand. Yet abandonment is not something that most people give a great deal of thought.
Why don’t we make that association between emotional abuse and abandonment?
A couple of reasons spring to mind. First, doubtless, because of the understandable, human desire to see things as we want […]
What makes a family not feel like family? When I say family, by the way, I use the blanket term quite deliberately. That family may mean one or both parents, or one or more siblings – even one or more children. Either way, when a family behave as if they are not your family, the […]
Let’s hear it for Divorce Monday!
Divorce Monday, first official day of Divorce Month (aka January) is the one day in the whole festive calendar that every emotionally abused woman ought to celebrate. I say this as someone who failed to celebrate quite a few – despite regularly going through the Christmas and New Year from Hell […]
Christmas is the hardest time
For emotionally abused women Christmas can be the hardest time of year. The hype of Christmas becomes a magnifying glass through which everything that’s not right with their lives is judged – remorselessly.
Of course, that begs the question: by whom is it judged?
Obviously, by those people in their lives who first […]
Have you spent a load of time trying to understand what’s going through an emotionally abusive husband’s head?
You wouldn’t be normal – that is, as normal as you possibly can be, in an abnormal situation – if you hadn’t done just that. The trouble is, thinking about it doesn’t get you very far. It’s actually […]
“I have finally cut that man loose!”
“I have finally cut that man loose, Annie. I am happy to say that I’m quite detached from my emotionally abusive husband’s continuing antics and will continue to be true to myself.” writes Mary.
When Mary started working with me, she had reached the end of the line. She had spent […]
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