Annie Kaszina

“You are not even fit to polish my son-in-law’s boots!” my father-in-law spat at me. For no particular reason.  He was just rude like that.
However, the really interesting part was what happened next.
You see, I was sitting in a room with him, my mother-in-law, my own parents  and the then husband.
What happened next was….
Nothing.
Nobody said […]

 Did you walk away from an abusive family member?
Did you walk away? Or, more correctly, did you grow up in a family where one member (or more) behaved abusively to you so that, in the end, you had to walk way?
Last week’s newsletter stated (Secret #5, now slightly revised) that people who  are highly critical […]

Emotional abuse SUCKS!
Emotional abuse sucks.  Abuse is a hideous, scarring experience that nobody deserves. First, it rips the ground from under your feet. Then it leads you into the black hole of self-blame. It is a journey through hell. Finally, sooner or later, you will discover what emotional abuse teaches you about love.  This article is about […]

How do you avoid toxic relationships when those are the kind of relationships you know best?
Aged 18 I had all the answers
Aged 18, I thought I had all the answers. (How’s that for the arrogance of youth?) I had just escaped a toxic relationship – before it really got underway. Aged 17, I met Charles. […]

The Question Least Asked
“How do I stop feeling unlovable?” is not actually a question that any emotionally abused woman has ever asked me.
Please understand, nobody has asked me that question for a reason.  That reason was NOT that they had never experienced themselves as unlovable.  The question “How do I stop feeling unlovable” had never […]

How do I heal…?
“How do I heal before I alienate all my friends and family?”  writes Sophie.
How long do you suppose Sophie has been in her emotionally abusive relationship? 6 months? A couple of years?  Longer?
Sophie is aware that she could – as well as should – act now to change things, while she still has the energy.
Chances […]

How to move on from an emotionally abusive relationship is something that every woman who has ever been there, inevitably, asks herself.  She knows she needs to. She desperately wants to – at least in part. Although, invariably, another part of her, would still love to make do and mend the relationship. The problem lies […]

Actually, I believe that every human being is deserving of the best that life has to offer; love, care, respect, consideration, far more than material goods. The key is to understand that this abundance can be freely available to all. Owning your own share does not reduce the amount that is available to all. It doesn’t mean depriving other people. Your abundance only increases the available store.

“I’m really sad and desperate”
Is it my fault the relationship is abusive? said no emotionally abusive partner. Ever.  However, that precise question was at the top of my Inbox after the New Year’s break.  It was, of course, an accusation levelled at Tonia, an emotionally abused woman – by her abusive partner.
What followed was,
A typical […]