Annie Kaszina Were you groomed for an emotionally abusive relationship? A lot of us were. That’s why we stayed with an emotionally abusive partner.
A groomer works to paralyze you
If only we had been able to avail ourselves of our common sense – and a sense of self – we would have done something very different. But a […]
How can you tell if you are in an emotionally abuse marriage?
Actually, for the longest time, you don’t. You don’t spot that crazy-maker because you can’t. Before you ever work around to the possibility of the relationship being abusive, you have to work through all the other possibilities.
Explanations That Don’t Explain Crazy-Making
You look for explanations […]
What stops you healing from emotional abuse? Most emotional abuse survivors – including me, back in the day – would argue that what stands in the way of healing is the damage done to you by the experience your abuser has put you through. Certainly that damage is massive. However, there is more as well.
What […]
How do you spot an emotional abuser by their conversation? What are the signs that – if only you had been able to spot them early on – could have saved you a ton of unhappiness and trouble? (As well as a mountain of hurt, humiliation, and mental, emotional, and financial expense.)
First off, let’s look […]
Emotional abuse recovery was never intended to be easy. That was the master-plan of the person – who took you into that mess in the first place. In reality, a weird unspoken contract occurred. Your emotionally abusive partner may well have promised to rescue, love and make you feel good about yourself. In reality, all […]
“I need to be more assertive.” my lovely client said, shaking her head in disappointment at herself. “I should have been able to…”
There followed any one of the following list that we have all said to ourselves at one time or another.
“I should have…”
Stood up for myself.
Said “No”.
Walked away.
Come out with a really good reply.
Le […]
By the time you even think seriously about walking away from an emotionally abusive relationship – it feels as if your life, your future, and your identity have all been taken away from you.
As an emotionally abused woman, you don’t know who you are, who you can be, or even if you have the strength […]
The 10 toxic problems all emotionally abused women face are not nearly widely enough understood. They are not fully understood by the sufferer. Still less, are they understood by Other People who imagine that an emotionally abused woman should
a) Respond instantly and appropriately to all free advice
b) See “sense” to order.
c) “Get over it” quickly […]
How to stop thinking like an emotionally abused woman is not something that emotionally abused women ask themselves. They say, “How can I stop feeling so bad?” “How can I make sure I don’t go back to him?” and “How can I get him out of my head?” Plus, they may well ask “How can […]
Do you have a problem forgiving an emotionally abusive partner?
Do you have a problem forgiving? Have you, too, been told that you need to forgive a partner – or other, key emotionally abusive figure in your life – before you can move on? Have other people – that most tiresome of gangs – dived in […]
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