Annie Kaszina

Most weeks, I receive a few  emails from emotionally abused women that pose the “Why do I…?” question.  That is a perfectly normal question for any hurt and suffering woman to ask.  It’s one that I have asked, myself.  More than once
The “Why do …?” question is a normal enough question – in the context […]

Previously, we looked at the two little words that make you feel like a victim.  This week, it seems only right to look at the two little words that will make you hold your head up high.
What an emotionally abusive relationship teaches.
An emotionally abusive relationship teaches you to hang your head in shame.
Obviously, it serves […]

Being around an emotionally abusive partner is reason enough to make anyone feel like a victim. Unfortunately, feeling like a victim has a markedly harmful effect on a person’s happiness and well-being.  It gets in the way of a person feeling good enough about themselves to make the changes they need to make. In this […]

There comes a point in every abusive relationship when you know you should get out. Your abusive partner is making you miserable, you know the relationship is all wrong and, as far as you can see, your life has stopped dead… But still you stay. You know you should leave, but you don’t.
Instead, you ask ourself: “What’s wrong with me?”

How did/does your Narcissist and abuser spoil Valentine’s day for you?  Notice that I’m asking not if but how he did it.  It is a foregone conclusion that narcissists and abusers will spoil Valentine’s Day for the one who loves them.  It just goes with the territory.
My toxic Valentine
My abiding memory of how the wasband […]

“Why is it so hard to recover from emotional abuse?” clients often ask.  “Why can’t I just get over it and move on?” Not for the first time, there is no “just” about it.
Getting over the trauma of living with an emotional abuser, or Narcissist, is a big deal.  On the other hand, it doesn’t […]

If you are reading this, and you don’t feel good about yourself, then you need to ask yourself, have you been blinded by emotional abuse? One of the hugely unpleasant things about emotional abuse is this, it catapults you into an alternative reality. An emotional abuser will, of course, tell you – over and over […]

 You have done nothing wrong
Do you need to blame yourself?  Are you in the habit of blaming yourself? Please understand, I’m not suggesting that you should blame yourself.  Still less, am I suggesting that you  might have done anything wrong.  The reason for my asking is simple – long experience of listening to emotionally abused women has taught […]