It can be Christmas every day – and more

 It is, of course, that time of year again when all of us are meant to submit ourselves to The Great Christmas Exam. How have we done on the Great Christmas Syllabus? Can we boast belonging to a happy family of origin?  Are we successfully coupled up? Do we have the requisite Great Relationship with […]

7 Powerful Life Lessons from Loving an Abusive Narcissist

Loving an abusive Narcissist is an experience that turns on its head everything you ever thought you knew about people and human values.  However, it also serves to teach the heart-led empath a number of crucial life lessons  – albeit lessons that the empath might have preferred not to see.  In this article we shall […]

The Cost of the Narcissist’s Charm

How do you accurately assess the cost of the Narcissist’s charm to you? And, if you have fallen for a Narcissist’s charm before, how can you protect yourself in the future?  In this article we shall be looking at how a slight tweak  in your own thinking may prove the best protection of all, going […]

How Big A Part Has Hopium Addiction Played in Your Life?

How do you know if you are, or have ever been, a Hopium Addiction? In this article, the time has come to revisit Hopium Addiction and look at the part that this damaging behavior may have played in your life.  As with any damaging behavior, it is important to consider  how to overcome this thing that […]

How Deeply Has Gaslighting Affected You?

What part does gaslighting play in your thinking? How often do you stop to to think about how gaslighting affects the way that you show up in the world? Obviously, by gaslighting I don’t mean a means of lighting the darkness that preceded the marvels of electric lighting.  Rather, in this article I want to […]

The Ugly Truth about A Controlling Abusive Partner

What makes it so hard to recognise a controlling, abusive partner for the toxic creature that they truly are?  Why is it that the people who love them find it so hard to make sense of the controlling abusive partner’s behavior?  And why does all the information that they have about control have so little […]

Closure, But Not As You Want It

Who would not want to have closure from their emotionally abusive relationship?  You have been forced to admit that the harmonious relationship that you desired can never be on offer.  It is only normal to longer for the compensation of a gracious ending that melds finality with peace of mind.  Is it really too much […]

Do You Have A Problem With Loyalty

Have you ever had a problem with loyalty? Or, more correctly, have you ever had a problem with other people who have a problem with loyalty?  I am guessing that you have.  Maybe that problem still shows up in your life.  It is just not possible to go through an emotionally abusive relationship without acquiring […]

“I know this sounds stupid but…”

Have you ever used the seemingly innocent little phrase, “I know this sounds stupid but…” (or else its close relative, “I’m probably being stupid but…”)?  “I know this sounds stupid but…” is a  little phrase  that is common enough to pass more or less unnoticed.  But don’t be fooled. It is a little phrase can […]