Annie Kaszina Detaching emotionally from a toxic, abusive person that you have loved deeply is never easy. But what do you do when you find out that they are grappling with a major life crisis?
How do you reconcile the sense of obligation that you feel with taking care of yourself?
How do you deal with that reflex feeling […]
This week, I want to tell you about a lovely client, let’s call her Jan. Jan typifies the kind of person – possibly rather like you – who has already made leaps and bounds in her awareness about emotional abuse and how it affects a person. But she still has something holding her back.
Jan has […]
Have you ever felt broken as a result of narcissistic and emotional abuse? If you have, that feeling is a perfectly normal response to the kind of deeply damaging relationship that you have been through. However, it is a huge drain on the energy and motivation that you can bring to bear on all areas […]
Have you ever worried about being the toxic one in your relationship?
Did this happen because you were labelled The Problem or The Narcissist by someone who was, actually, in no position to cast a first stone?
If so, you know that such labels and accusations play strange tricks on your mind. You end up both knowing that you […]
Have you ever thought that abuse has affected the way that you show up in the world? How could it not?
Intimate relationship abuse, inevitably, undermines your sense of self. That applies to all kinds of abuse from narcissistic and emotional abuse to mental, physical and sexual intimate relationship abuse, also.
But what I want to look […]
How do you cope with tough times when you don’t feel that you can cope? That is a problem that all survivors of an abusive relationship have to face – individually. Now, with the coronavirus pandemic, it is an issue that we all have to face both individually and collectively. This week, I want to […]
We need to talk about The Silent Treatment, the technique of sulking to make a person feel rejected and abandoned that so many abusers employ to crush their partners, children or other family members. The truth is that The Silent Treatment is a weapon that abusers use to wound you deeply – without the perpetrator […]
“I know you better than you know yourself.” was one of my father’s favorite phrases*. He used it to shape my perceptions of him – and also what I projected onto him. In this article we need to look at the various aspects of projection – that is the transfer of desires, beliefs and emotions […]
Having a child changes you – unless, that is, you are a Narcissist. (Nothing changes a Narcissist.) “Having a child, my mother often said, “requires you to become selfless.” My mother did – and didn’t – have a point.
Having a child opens your eyes to your own childhood
Having a child requires you put another […]
Emotional abuse creates a deep sense of loss. It takes you into an acutely painful place of exclusion. It leads you to look at the rest of the world and see everyone else as other than you. Other in the sense of happier and more blessed. From where you are standing, that feels horribly real […]
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