5 Things You Need to Know about Setting Boundaries with a Narcissistic Partner or Family Member

You have to understand that boundaries serve the purpose of protecting you from abuse and restoring your sense of your worth. Boundaries do not exist to help you create a bit of breathing room for yourself in what is an unjust and unpleasant status quo. They serve to establish the kind of status quo that you choose to be a part of, a status quo in which you are shown the respect and consideration owed to an equal. That is what makes effective boundaries so essential for every survivor of narcissistic abuse.

“Will my family ever really see me?”

Have you ever felt invisible? In the context of your home with an abusive partner? And especially in your family of origin? if so, this post is for you.
This week, a lovely client was asking me why it was that her family of origin just didn’t seem to see her?  Even when she was physically […]

Are you competing in the emotional hurdles?

“Do you think that emotionally I am “behind” other adults?” my client asked me.
That’s not a question that I had ever heard formulated in quite that way before.  Still, the underlying belief sounded all too familiar.
All children of narcissistic parents come into this world with an emotional yardstick in their little, pudgy hands (metaphorically speaking, […]