Why an emotionally abusive relationship can never work

Why an emotionally abusive relationship can never work is the very last thing that the partner of an emotional abuser thinks about.  Instead, that partner will spend a LOT of time thinking about what they can do to make it work.
Whoever said that the victims of emotional abuse aren’t optimistic? 
Even if that optimism was misplaced.
When […]

Has Invisibility Ever Been A Problem For You?

This week, I am wondering how much invisibility has affected your life. I guess the reason for asking is that the week has offered me a couple of unexpected wake-up calls that made me think just how big a part invisibility plays in the mosaic of abuse.
When you stop to think about it, someone who […]

When you need to do relationships differently

All survivors of narcissistic abuse emerge feeling shell-shocked, diminished  and deeply traumatized. Some resolve to rush headlong into the next relationship to exorcise the experience. Others decide that the only way to protect themselves in the future is to steer clear of love and intimate relationships forever after.
Both of these choices are, essentially, coping strategies. […]

Do You Invent The World That You See?

Have you ever had that experience when a few unexpected events come together and lead you to a shift in perspective? That is what happened to me this morning.
It started with someone on Instagram who, I feel, has a very dark energy. She posts to the effect that Narcissists are the innocent victims of evil […]