A Lesson in Love that I Learned from my Child

Having a child changes you – unless, that is, you are a Narcissist. (Nothing changes a Narcissist.)  “Having a child, my mother often said, “requires you to become selfless.” My mother did – and didn’t – have a point.  
Having a child opens your eyes to your own childhood
Having a child requires you put another […]

Do You Blame Yourself for Not Trying Hard Enough?

“If at first you don’t succeed, try, try and try again.” said Robert the Bruce, allegedly.  On the strength of that pronouncement, Robert sounds a likely candidate for patron saint of victims of emotional and narcissistic abuse. The strategy of all abuse victims is to keep trying harder. But what are the contraindications? What are […]

Who Do You Think They Really Are

What makes it so hard to let go of an abusive, Narcissistic partner?  Where do you find an answer that makes sense to the abused partner and the concerned onlooker?  Love is the most  commonly cited “reason”.  But is that really accurate?  Do people really love the partner who abuses them?
When pressed, the abused partner […]