“I know this sounds stupid but…”

Have you ever used the seemingly innocent little phrase, “I know this sounds stupid but…” (or else its close relative, “I’m probably being stupid but…”)?  “I know this sounds stupid but…” is a  little phrase  that is common enough to pass more or less unnoticed.  But don’t be fooled. It is a little phrase can […]

An Abusive Partner Really Can Help It

Have you ever struggled to believe that your abusive, narcissistic partner can help it? Have you ever explained and excused their behaviour on the grounds that they don’t mean it or else have been so damaged that they can’t help themselves? If so, you might like to consider the different ways in which you and […]

You do know they’re an emotional emotional toddler, right?

Q. How would you know if your abusive, Narcissistic partner is really an emotional toddler?
A.  The chances are, you probably wouldn’t. For the longest time.  And the reason why is simple.  Once the dust settled and the shallow facade of charm disappeared, you had no option but to show up as an adult in the […]

The real victim in the situation

Q.  How do you know who is the real victim in the situation when you are in a relationship with an abusive narcissist
A.  Chances are, you don’t feel not entirely sure.  Your partner has no doubt whatsoever that he (or she) is without blame, having been horribly and consistently wronged – by you (allegedly). You, […]