Different kinds of bad relationships

Wouldn’t it be nice if we only had to experience being ill-treated by one man, and we learned from it never to make certain mistakes again? For most of us, the reality is slightly different. We learn that a certain kind of man treated us badly, in a certain kind of way, and we resolve never to make that mistake again. Sadly, we don’t think that we could be vulnerable to different, but equally calamitous, mistakes. That is precisely why we repeat them.

The One Thing You Really Don’t Want to Wear

My mother’s favorite phrases – when I was doing my best to grow up –  included these three gems, “What do you think you are doing?” “What do you think you are wearing?” and “You aren’t going out looking like that!”  There were plenty of things she did not want me to wear – because […]

“I felt like I was going crazy.”

During my abusive marriage, I was plagued with feelings of craziness.   In fact, the longer I stayed in the marriage, the more I felt like I was going crazy. Plus, the wasband, a physician, frequently labelled me “crazy” in his most professional tones.
 Have you ever felt like you were going crazy? Almost every single client that […]

“Why, oh why, do I do that?”  

Most weeks, I receive a few  emails from emotionally abused women that pose the “Why do I…?” question.  That is a perfectly normal question for any hurt and suffering woman to ask.  It’s one that I have asked, myself.  More than once
The “Why do …?” question is a normal enough question – in the context […]