“Why  is it so hard to recover from emotional abuse?”

“Why is it so hard to recover from emotional abuse?” clients often ask.  “Why can’t I just get over it and move on?” Not for the first time, there is no “just” about it.
Getting over the trauma of living with an emotional abuser, or Narcissist, is a big deal.  On the other hand, it doesn’t […]

Have You Been Blinded By Emotional Abuse?

If you are reading this, and you don’t feel good about yourself, then you need to ask yourself, have you been blinded by emotional abuse? One of the hugely unpleasant things about emotional abuse is this, it catapults you into an alternative reality. An emotional abuser will, of course, tell you – over and over […]

Do You Need To Blame Yourself?

 You have done nothing wrong
Do you need to blame yourself?  Are you in the habit of blaming yourself? Please understand, I’m not suggesting that you should blame yourself.  Still less, am I suggesting that you  might have done anything wrong.  The reason for my asking is simple – long experience of listening to emotionally abused women has taught […]

Should I stop trusting my emotionally abusive husband?

To trust, or not to trust?
Should I stop trusting my emotionally abusive husband? is a question I am very rarely asked.  This is actually quite surprising – when you think that I’ve spent 12+ years working with thousands of women who are waking up to the realization that they’ve been trapped in emotionally abusive relationships. […]