Where do you start your recovery from emotional abuse? When you’ve been in an emotionally abusive relationship for a while, there comes a time when you realize that something is profoundly wrong. There’s a lot of unhappiness, and a lot of accusations and put downs; nothing ever seems to get resolved; in fact nothing seems […]
When you are in a relationship with an emotionally abusive man, you are always aware of the judgments of Other People. They’re like a Greek chorus commenting on your life. You just know they spend their time wondering, none too compassionately, “Why does she stay?”
Mostly, there are plenty of good reasons why you stay: like finances, […]
It can be hard to see what makes an emotionally abusive partner so attractive – unless we’re talking about your emotionally abusive partner; in which case none of the usual, normal criteria apply. As a general rule, emotionally abusive partners are dogmatic to the point of arrogance, self-important, opinionated, inconsiderate, self-centred, touchy, a tad humorless, […]
How not to react to an emotionally abusive husband is one of the most important lessons you will ever learn. It’s also the thing that will have the greatest effect on your quality of life, peace of mind and, even, your finances.
Please understand, I’m not talking about how not to react to his hurtful comments […]
Trying to understand her emotionally abusive husband is something every woman tries – and fails – to do. She fails because she can’t understand how her emotionally abusive husband (or partner) can possibly be the way he is. Because she is loving, loyally, and deeply committed to the relationship, she believes that he must be, […]
How to recover from emotional abuse is just one of the conundrums facing any woman who has ever been in an emotionally abusive relationship. Sadly, there are a few others as well, like: “How could he treat me that way?” “What’s wrong with me?” and “Will I ever get over this enough to live, love […]
What comes after emotional abuse?
What comes after emotional abuse is THE big question, the question that all emotionally abused women do – and don’t – ask themselves. I say that both as someone who has been there and done (and not done) that, and as someone who has supported hundreds of other women as they […]
Who’s really the needy one in an emotionally abusive relationship is something emotionally abused woman don’t ask themselves. Why would they? It’s so counter-intuitive.
The dynamic of an emotionally abusive relationship works like this:
You meet this man
He is initially very keen
You respond – possibly despite initial misgivings
He sweeps you off your feet… and into a supporting […]
What happens to emotionally abused women in counselling is not always what you would expect. It would be hard to overstate the hopes of emotionally abused women who go into counselling and/or therapy. Now, finally, they have found someone who will be in their corner and help and support them on their journey to recovery.
Sadly, […]
“What happens to emotionally abused women?” is such a vitally important question that it can be answered in several ways. In this article I’m going to relate it to the question that emotionally abused women inevitably ask themselves in one form or another:
“What has happened to me?”
When women ask themselves that question underlying it is […]
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