“Emotional abuse is subtle..”

“How can you even be sure it is emotional abuse?” asked the voice on the other end of the line, doubtfully.  “It’s so subtle.”
Now, there are many things I would accuse an emotionally abusive husband of, but subtlety is not one of them.  Crazy-making, manipulation, terminal judgmentalism, low cunning, and naked spite are just a […]

Does sympathy hamstring you, too?

The tears started, almost before my client spoke.  Her situation was A-W-F-U-L.  Her emotionally abusive partner was, seemingly, practising a scorched earth policy.  My client was well aware of just how awful that was.  So was I.  But I also know this:
When a situation is really tough  sympathy is the last thing anyone needs.
As an […]

Actually, emotional abuse is personal – but not in the way you think?

This week I experienced  a powerful revelation that I want to share with you: emotional abuse really is personal…  But NOT in the way you think.
As I write this, I’m exhausted and exhilarated, having spent the weekend on a wonderful, personal development training.  I’ll admit I went in a sceptical frame of mind.  In an […]