The Rules for Being Emotionally Abused

“How could he do that to me?” is a question emotionally abused women always ask themselves. And me. Underlying their question is the belief that there is no good answer.
They’re right, of course.
But then it’s not about goodness, at all.  Goodness has NOTHING to do with it.
And it’s not just about your emotionally abusive partner.  […]

You Can Have Closure On An Emotionally Abusive Relationship

When you’ve been in an emotionally abusive relationship, you live with the belief that you can never recover from emotional abuse and be at peace until your emotionally abusive partner acknowledges what a jerk he was.  Not that he is ever going to do that – which means that the rest of your life could […]

You Can Have Closure On An Emotionally Abusive Relationship

When you’ve been in an emotionally abusive relationship, you live with the belief that you can never recover from emotional abuse and be at peace until your emotionally abusive partner acknowledges what a jerk he was.  Not that he is ever going to do that – which means that the rest of your life could […]

Do You Have To Walk On Eggshells With An Emotionally Abusive Partner?

Everything has a purpose;  even an emotionally abusive relationship.  That’s what I choose to believe.  Not least because it serves me far better than any other belief I’ve yet found – or heard – about emotionally abusive relationships.
So, what could possibly be the purpose of an emotionally abusive relationship? 
You might well ask.
When I was […]

“Who Matters To You?”

“Who matters to you?” is one question I rarely ask emotionally abused women; and there’s a reason why I don’t.   That reason is simple: I don’t need to. Any emotionally abused woman I speak with will tell me very, very  quickly.
In fact, there’s just one thing they might tell me before they get round to […]