5 - 2008 - Annie Kaszina

“How Can I Let Go And Move On”

15th July 201931st May 2008 by Annie Kaszina

Dear Annie,

I was married to a mentally abusive man for 16
years. I began having an affair as an attempt to
have a part of my life where I could be happy, satisfied and unafraid. I ended
up falling in love with that man and I am with him still. Although there were moments he admitted he
was mean to me, he now feels his abusive language to me and about me is
justified by "righteous anger". My problem is I have to deal with this man because we have children.
I do fight back, but it just makes his attack worse. I want to reach a point where he has no
power to hurt me anymore and his attacks on me are nothing more than laughable.
Is that possible?

“Is Your Relationship Pain ‘Clean’ Or ‘Dirty’?”

15th July 201931st May 2008 by Annie Kaszina

‘Clean pain’, is the pain of an actual event, and ‘dirty pain’, is the suffering we generate for ourselves inside our own mind. When you are at rock bottom, it is easy to transition from ‘clean’ pain to ‘dirty’ pain. ‘Dirty’ pain occurs when we start spinning a ‘story’ for ourselves around events. ‘Dirty’ pain is generally harder than ‘clean’ pain to deal with.

“You Are BETTER Than You Think You Are”

15th July 201930th May 2008 by Annie Kaszina

By entering into an abusive relationship you signed a contract to believe all the bad things that your partner says about you. Sure, you signed that contract unwittingly. But still, by virtue of staying in the relationship you have honoured it. And I don’t have to tell you that there are absolutely no limits to the negative things that an abusive partner will say about and to you.

1-2-1 Coaching With Annie Kaszina

15th July 201927th May 2008 by Annie Kaszina

         “My
         counsellor has been telling me for months that I don’t listen to
         her. But when you say something, Annie, I hear it.” Mimi P.

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Why You Won’t Fall Into Another Destructive Relationship

15th July 201922nd May 2008 by Annie Kaszina

Happily, that has changed for her and for you. The fact that you are reading this now shows that you now think carefully about the nature of abusive relationships and have access to the information that you need to recognise and avoid them

Are You “Damaged Goods”?

15th July 201916th May 2008 by Annie Kaszina

As all abused women are well advised to learn, feeling hopeless and worthless leaves you very vulnerable to more abuse.

Have You Suffered “Inevitable Harm?”

15th July 20198th May 2008 by Annie Kaszina

Inevitable harm happened to you in the past because you couldn’t know that it would, inevitably. It was never your fault, it was simply inevitable. There’s no point in blaming yourself for what you could not have prevented. There is every point in ensuring that you never risk finding yourself in that position again.