Because they can

Years and years ago I watched “Stepford Wives” (the
original version) while I was studying Fascism for my doctorate. The line from the film that has stayed with
me down the years is; “Because we can.” This is what the men of Stepford say to Joanne, the lead character when
she asks why they are destroying their womenfolk.

Back then, the answer struck me as both simple and
profound. It still does. It held true as true for acts of collective
violence as it did for individual acts of violence. Perpetrators did it because they could.

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How To Shed An Old Skin

A couple of weeks ago I was working with a young woman who
had just had laser surgery on her face. 

Neglected by her mother and father, she had been sexually abused by an
uncle. For want of a better way of
dealing with the experience at her tender age, she had taught herself to laugh
about it and told herself that it wasn’t that important in the great scheme of
things.

She had laser surgery on her face to remove the scars from
the years when she had dug her nails into the skin over and over again.

 

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Success is…

One of the (many) joys of ending a long, miserable
marriage is that it leaves me free to pursue my own personal development, or
spiritual journey. Possibly I left my marriage at a time when personal
development courses had become main stream enough to be readily available. Certainly I am constantly grateful for all
the resources readily available out there.

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