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“I Love Him So Much I Can’t Let Him Be That Way”
If I had a dollar for every time a woman has told me that she can’t leave a man who humiliates and beats her because once upon a time he used to apologize and cry, I’d have a small mountain of dollars sitting on my desk.
Tony Blair likens himself to “abused and bullied women”
The reality of being an abused woman is that all too often doors close in your face and you have to make the hardest decisions of your life more or less unsupported. Or even if you have some support behind you, you may still be in danger of your life. That’s a far cry from Blair’s experience.
When you are between a rock and a hard place
The pace of recovery is way too slow at the start. Besides, you feel too weary to work through the process; you just want to hurtle through the recovery tunnel, like some kind of emotional time traveller, and arrive instantly at the other end. Healed. Whole. Of course it doesn’t happen.
How To Fill The Bottomless Pit Of Hopelessness
Emotional abuse leaves you feeling like a bottomless pit. You attempt to fill that pit with whatever wisdom, support and information you can garner. And the pit still seems bottomless. Everything seems to disappear into it. Until one day you reach critical mass
Who Spares A Thought For Abused Women?
There is a cosy belief that lingers that once a woman is no longer subjected to domestic violence the problem is over. Finished. History. Abused women suffer from our very own brand of PTSD (Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder) without knowing what it is or if they will ever recover from it. How could they, when they don’t even recognize that that is what has happened to them?
What will you do?
In an abusive relationship your time and your state cease to be your own. Whether or not your abusive partner is with you all the time he casts a long shadow. This is exactly the way he wants it. If he is to have the power over you that he desires, then you must feel anxious on his account at all times.
What do you know that isn’t so?
You ladies out there who still believe that you will always love him, trust me on this, YOU WILL NOT. You are not Whitney Houston! You will not always love him, not least because you probably don’t actually love him now. We both know he’s not worth it. You can try as you may to see the potential in him that might make him worth it, he’ll keep on showing you the dark side that is not worth another minute of your precious life.
I don’t really belong to the group of abused women
A lot of women who have found themselves in abusive relationships believe the are not part of the major group. It may be because we are bright, or middle class, or feisty, or financially independent or, you choose…
How To Heal Your Heart
Healing your heart and getting over an abusive man is really very much easier than it seems.
The 5 Simple Steps to Healing from Narcissistic Abuse
Over the next 5 days, I'll send you some lessons and tips that I've found have really helped women to heal from narcissistic abuse. Starting with the basics.
