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Who Spares A Thought For Abused Women?

There is a cosy belief that lingers that once a woman is no longer subjected to domestic violence the problem is over. Finished. History. Abused women suffer from our very own brand of PTSD (Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder) without knowing what it is or if they will ever recover from it. How could they, when they don’t even recognize that that is what has happened to them?

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What will you do?

In an abusive relationship your time and your state cease to be your own. Whether or not your abusive partner is with you all the time he casts a long shadow. This is exactly the way he wants it. If he is to have the power over you that he desires, then you must feel anxious on his account at all times.

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What do you know that isn’t so?

You ladies out there who still believe that you will always love him, trust me on this, YOU WILL NOT. You are not Whitney Houston! You will not always love him, not least because you probably don’t actually love him now. We both know he’s not worth it. You can try as you may to see the potential in him that might make him worth it, he’ll keep on showing you the dark side that is not worth another minute of your precious life.

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I don’t really belong to the group of abused women

A lot of women who have found themselves in abusive relationships believe the are not part of the major group. It may be because we are bright, or middle class, or feisty, or financially independent or, you choose…

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How To Heal Your Heart

Healing your heart and getting over an abusive man is really very much easier than it seems.

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Annie Kaszina Answers Your Questions

a href="http://lifemadesimple.typepad.com/abusednomore/annie-kaszina-answers-you.html">Download annie-kaszina-answers-you.html (11.3K)</a>“Do they do it deliberately?”

A woman wrote to me this week, saying she could not her
abusive ex-partner out of her head. Specifically, she had a couple of questions for me:
“1. Are abusers aware of what they are doing? Is
it a behaviour that will continue
in their next relationship ?
2.
in an […]

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“How do you know when it’s time to leave?”

f I had a dollar for every woman who has ever written to me saying: “I didn’t know you’d been living with my husband/partner”, it would be a nice little earner – sadly. Sure, everyone is different. But abusive relationships are all much of a muchness. There comes a time, usually fairly early on in the relationship, when you get that sinking feeling in your stomach and you think: “This is really wrong. I should walk.” But then you don’t. Many women wait to leave until they know they are at rock bottom. But rock bottom is a moving target. Just when you think you must have reached it in an abusive relationship things get even worse.

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What do you know with your heart?

In an abusive relationship your heart is systematically trashed and vilified. You walk, or limp away feeling that your heart is worthless because that is the way it has been treated.
And so you put your trust in your head. Because your head must be clear and rational, must it not? That is what heads are meant to be, after all.
Yet your head will not lead you out of the impasse. Such wisdom as you hold in your head stops at the jaw bone or the neck.

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7 Things I Wish I’d Known When I Started Out On The Road To Recovery

The dire predictions my abusive partner made for and about me were all completely wrong. (Somehow it took me the longest time to realize that he had no talent at all for predicting the future.) As a general rule, people who make a point of predicting your future are utterly useless at it.
The dire predictions I made proved wrong. We base our predictions for the future on the past. If you choose to stay in an abusive relationship, then of course all you can expect is more of the same. But once you start the process of change by leaving it, you create a climate in which everything can change, generally for the better.

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The 5 Simple Steps to Healing from Narcissistic Abuse

Over the next 5 days, I'll send you some lessons and tips that I've found have really helped women to heal from narcissistic abuse.  Starting with the basics.

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