“Our lives are all about communicating in an adult way. Sulkers can change with loving, people who teach them how to laugh; laughter is contagious. Please have a wonderful life—it’s Short.” So writes “Bettina Sweet” [really?] in the comments on my post about The Low-Down on Sulking.
Clearly, I am not as sweet a person as Bettina […]
As a survivor of narcissistic abuse, how do those three little words, “Is it me?” connect with you?
When I saw them in my Inbox today, they made me feel very sad.
The email read,
“I keep thinking about joining the Break Free Membership. But then I think is it me? I try to think before I speak. […]
What do you think is the biggest hold that a Narcissist has on the people who love them?
In the end, it comes down to fear. That fear manifests in a multitude of concerns including:
I won’t be able to cope on my own – financially or emotionally.
They’ll replace me effortlessly thereby proving how worthless I am.
One […]
Today, I want to share with you how I got to rewrite my story, despite having given up on myself.
Fairly early on in my healing journey, I met the exceptional Face Reader, Glenna Trout. She took me in in one long look and said,
“You’re someone who let’s your clothes do the talking.”
Well, I guess that […]
“How do I become unshakable?” my client asked me. Newly separated from her narcissistic partner – who sees no benefits to himself in ending the relationship – she was reeling from his constant mind games.
Like all Narcissists who are not ready for the relationship to end, he is throwing everything that he has at her, […]
This week, I am enjoying one of those things that I had forgotten all about in the pandemic – a holiday.
But there was something I really wanted to share with you.
So I am channeling Mark Twain, who apparently said, “I didn’t have time to write a short letter so I wrote a long one […]
“I just want closure” my client said. Haven’t we all said that at some point? And what we meant was, approximately, that they would leave us with some kind of 4-5 star review on Relationship Trip Advisor. “Great nature, good heart, plenty of empathy, a warm loving environment. Can heartily recommend” our ex-partner would say. […]
Some Narcissists are long-stay, others not so much. Still, it always comes as a shock when the person who had vowed to love you, discards you like yesterday’s pizza box. When that happens, it is perfectly normal to end up asking yourself that most self-defeating question:
“How could they treat me that way?”
The question sucks, of […]
What do you do when you have been taught to feel that your feelings are not important? You turn all your hurt, wounded, disappointed feelings back on yourself. You blame yourself for the Narcissist’s bad treatment of you.
The self-recriminations that all survivors of narcissistic relationships are left with can prove the biggest obstacles to […]
Nobody leaves an abusive relationship without having asked themselves, endlessly whether, if they had just done more, they could have kept it alive. The answer which, of course we all know but most of us struggle to believe, is that no amount of “more” would ever have been enough. At this point most survivors ask, […]
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