What happened after your emotionally abusive partner first shattered your trust? It bears careful examination.
The first fissure in your emotionally abusive relationship was like a nuclear explosion in your emotional world. You felt as if your world had been blown apart. That explosion left you feeling devastated, and very, very frightened.
Chances are, it also left you feeling […]
Okay, I’ll admit it, I’ve become hooked on the Olympic Games. That’s something I’d never have imagined. But… the day when Great Britain wins 6 gold medals in one day, is a rare day, indeed. And it set me musing…
I was always hopeless at sport. My parents cheerfully pinned the ‘Hopeless at Sport’ label on […]
When did your relationship become overtly emotionally abusive, and damaging?
Where did it all start to go wrong?
“Wrong”, so to speak. You’d got past the first hurdle. You’d overlooked the ringing of the warning bells, and the waving of the red flags inside your own head, when first you met him. You’d believed him when he […]
For the past few days the very edifying story of Tamara Eccelestone’s relationship meltdown has been plastered across the English tabloids.
Tamara, in case you don’t know, is the daughter of Formula 1 Billionaire, Bernie Ecclestone. As behoves the daughter of a billionaire, she is beautiful, groomed, famous for being the child of immense of […]
Verbal communication is great, isn’t it? Words may, or may not, mean just what they say. They can be a tool for clarity and communication… Or not. Like the splendid: “We need to talk”, used religiously in soap operas – by women – to herald searingly honest communication… Except that it’s not about talking, it’s […]
I hadn’t intended to write more about “doing nice” again this week. I was going to talk about Mr Nasty. But then I had a light bulb moment I really want to share with you.
I had an appointment to speak with a woman who said she was a People-pleaser Extraordinaire. Boy, was she right about […]
You know something? You’re nice.
And bad things happen to nice people.
It’s not a punishment for being nice. It’s an occupational hazard for “doing nice”.
(I’m prepared to labor this point a little, because it really is key. But abused women don’t get it the first or the second time. It takes a LOT of getting your […]
There’s something you need to take on board about people: people don’t all work the same way.
Now, you may be wondering why I’m telling you something so blindingly obvious. If you’ve been on this earth for more than 5 minutes, you already know that, don’t you?
It’s not quite that simple. In reality, it seems to […]
We need to talk about your parents.
This is NOT about blame, I’m NOT suggesting we look at your parents in order to lay blame at their door for whatever has happened in your life.
Maybe there’s cause for blame, maybe there isn’t. Let’s not go there. You see, we’re in the business of making your life […]
Hey, you with the sad face, how did it happen? How did you end up stuck in a lousy relationship with an abusive partner.
Every so often I come across a woman who’ll tell me that she was riding high when she met her abusive partner. While I know the woman who tells me that story […]
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