Is your emotionally abusive partner’s behaviour mind-boggling? Does his mind-boggling behavior make it even harder to recover from an emotionally abusive relationship? Do you find yourself asking: “Why on earth would anyone in their right mind do that?”
Not that I’m suggesting that he’s in his wrong mind. If, from where you stand, his behaviour looks […]
Emotional abuse blinds you to so much that is truly important. That’s why Christmas and New Year are some of the worst days in the calendar for emotionally abused women. It’s the time of year when the media bang on about perfect, happy families – and I bang on about the media driving the sad, […]
“I have to give him another chance’, she said. “I’ve promised.”
He, needless to say, is a man who ‘has his moments – that is to say, an emotionally abusive partner’. He can promise her the good stuff: the Together Forever, the Everlasting Love, the Happiness Ever After quite convincingly. He’s just not terribly good at […]
Emotional abuse is always, ALWAYS tough. It may well be the toughest thing we ever suffer in our entire life.
Not because it is the worst thing. When you stand back and look at it, there are far sadder things than that. But there is an experience of awfulness attached to emotional abuse that you don’t […]
“How can you even be sure it is emotional abuse?” asked the voice on the other end of the line, doubtfully. “It’s so subtle.”
Now, there are many things I would accuse an emotionally abusive husband of, but subtlety is not one of them. Crazy-making, manipulation, terminal judgmentalism, low cunning, and naked spite are just a […]
The tears started, almost before my client spoke. Her situation was A-W-F-U-L. Her emotionally abusive partner was, seemingly, practising a scorched earth policy. My client was well aware of just how awful that was. So was I. But I also know this:
When a situation is really tough sympathy is the last thing anyone needs.
As an […]
This week I experienced a powerful revelation that I want to share with you: emotional abuse really is personal… But NOT in the way you think.
As I write this, I’m exhausted and exhilarated, having spent the weekend on a wonderful, personal development training. I’ll admit I went in a sceptical frame of mind. In an […]
Could the outcome of the Oscar Pistorius trial have been much worse? Could it possibly have come at a more appropriate time than Domestic Violence Awareness Month?
It’s true, 300 hours of Community Service and House Arrest would have been worse, but the message Judge Masipa’s verdict sends to the world is deplorable: South Africa has […]
You’re not crying over spilt milk, are you?
A relationship with an emotionally abusive partner is guaranteed to leave you floundering in a sea of regret. You regret what happened, and what didn’t happen, what you said and did – and what you didn’t say and do in your emotionally abusive relationship. You regret what might […]
“Do emotionally abusive men get better when they are older? Will he get better as he ages now that I’m gone?” was one interesting query I received this week.
I’m afraid I couldn’t help myself. My knee-jerk response was:
“He’s not a cheese, and he’s not a fine wine. He’s not even a fruit cake – that […]
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