What makes it so hard to get over the pain, and the sheer awfulness, of your abusive relationship?
The answer seems obvious.
You might reply: “I’m hurting because of the things he said and did. I just can’t get beyond that…”
And that’s true, of course.
The things your abusive partner said and did have had a very damaging […]
Does “chemistry” matter?
Most women seem to think it does. In fact, most of the women I’ve worked with say they couldn’t contemplate a relationship with a man, unless they feel more or less instant chemistry with him.
If he’s a nice guy, but there’s no chemistry, then they don’t consider him partner material.
Whereas, if there is […]
What makes a woman stand out?
Good looks don’t hurt. But, if it were just a matter of looks, then your life would probably have taken a very different path. Because one thing I know is this: it’s NOT because you are less attractive, less intelligent or less worthwhile than anyone else that you’ve ended up […]
Dear Annie,
I am working on getting away from my abusive partner – although I am finding it more and more difficult. I want to start a new life, but something is holding me back and I don’t know what. I guess it’s fear.
Maybe one day I’ll feel strong enough!!!
Jolene
Dear Jolene,
“One day” […]
“Dear Annie,
Something is wrong with my life. I have been divorced from an emotionally abusive man for several years. I am living with a boyfriend who can’t find a job. He doesn’t even seem to care anymore. He doesn’t talk nicely to me. I don’t work either.
My ex-husband and his girlfriend recently bought a house together. […]
Hi Annie,
My husband was not verbally or physically abusive, but negligent. He withheld affection, we didn’t go anywhere, do anything, communicate. If I didn’t agree with him it was always his way and ‘not negotiable’. He would walk away from me rather than discuss anything and just tell me to leave him alone. Or […]
Dear Annie,
You are so good at describing any and all situations of abuse in a simple and clear manner. You are direct but respectful not to victimize us women for staying with these so called men we feel so in love with/addicted to.. Where did you get your training?
Barbara
Dear Barbara,
Thank you for your kind words. […]
Dear Annie,
How do you know when you’re not at fault?
“I’ve been married for 10 years, and just now wondering if all this time of struggling and trying to have a happy relationship, really I’m in an abusive one.
I don’t get called names, but it’s like I don’t matter. From the beginning when we’ve argued, […]
Claire spent a lot of years in a toxic marriage, bringing up her 3 children the best way she could.
And – like every abused woman I’ve ever known – she made an amazingly good job of it. She managed to give far more care, love and respect than she’d received.
How did she do it?
Let me […]
If you really love someone the small things will take care of themselves. Right or wrong?
In a relationship, what matters is getting the big things right, right? Get them right and the small things are just, well, ‘details’…
Allegedly.
But take a moment to think about it. How many fights have you had […]
Over the next 5 days, I'll send you some lessons and tips that I've found have really helped women to heal from narcissistic abuse. Starting with the basics.
Want daily reassurance and inspiration? Sign up to my Instagram account. @dr_anniephd
