When you are in a relationship with an emotionally abusive man, you are always aware of the judgments of Other People. They’re like a Greek chorus commenting on your life. You just know they spend their time wondering, none too compassionately, “Why does she stay?”
Mostly, there are plenty of good reasons why you stay: like finances, […]
What happens to emotionally abused women in counselling is not always what you would expect. It would be hard to overstate the hopes of emotionally abused women who go into counselling and/or therapy. Now, finally, they have found someone who will be in their corner and help and support them on their journey to recovery.
Sadly, […]
Verbal abuse does untold harm – and yet it largely passes unnoticed: you only have to think of that old saying: “Sticks and stones will break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” That was something my father – who was no slouch when it came to using words that, allegedly, never hurt – […]
The woman I was talking with was strong, vocal, out there. She was, she said, a BIG personality, absolutely NOT a push-over for an emotionally abusive partner. Rather, she was someone ‘who intimidated the crap out of men’. That was a problem for her. It wasn’t so much that men ran for the hills when she […]
Who taught you…?
Dion felt invisible – but like most emotionally abused women she wasn’t even aware what was wrong
“Who taught you that you didn’t matter much?” I asked Dion.
“What do you mean?” she replied.
That kind of blank incomprehension is common in my emotionally abused clients. They’ve been emotionally neglected -and/or rejected – by key figures […]
Your emotionally abusive partner doesn’t want you to recover from his emotional abuse. Why would he? There’s nothing in it for him. Emotionally abusive partners are, by definition, dogs in a manger. Whether or not they move on, they don’t want you to. They measure their power by the power they have to make you […]
“Help! My sister’s bullying me. How do I deal with a bullying sibling?” a client asked me this week.
Being bullied by a member of your own family – especially when you are a child – can be incredibly hard to deal with. Many people underestimate the difficulties of being a child. Having been brought up in […]
This week I experienced a powerful revelation that I want to share with you: emotional abuse really is personal… But NOT in the way you think.
As I write this, I’m exhausted and exhilarated, having spent the weekend on a wonderful, personal development training. I’ll admit I went in a sceptical frame of mind. In an […]
Pay attention to what you tell yourself. If you want to recover from emotional abuse, but you’re telling yourself your emotionally abusive relationship has been so awful, and you’re so damaged you’ll probably never get over it, then you’re not doing yourself any good at all. You MUST learn how to stop that.
Don’t listen to […]
“How could he do that to me?” is a question emotionally abused women always ask themselves. And me. Underlying their question is the belief that there is no good answer.
They’re right, of course.
But then it’s not about goodness, at all. Goodness has NOTHING to do with it.
And it’s not just about your emotionally abusive partner. […]
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