“How could he do that to me?” is a question emotionally abused women always ask themselves. And me. Underlying their question is the belief that there is no good answer.
They’re right, of course.
But then it’s not about goodness, at all. Goodness has NOTHING to do with it.
And it’s not just about your emotionally abusive partner. […]
Everything has a purpose; even an emotionally abusive relationship. That’s what I choose to believe. Not least because it serves me far better than any other belief I’ve yet found – or heard – about emotionally abusive relationships.
So, what could possibly be the purpose of an emotionally abusive relationship?
You might well ask.
When I was […]
Fiona Everywoman couldn’t take any more – that’s why she contacted me. She’d been married to a difficult, emotionally abusive husband for a lot of years, and she had hit rock bottom. She’d done EVERYTHING, she believed in marriage and the two parent family, but…
Fiona Everywoman is not her real name, of course. But, in […]
How do you cope when times are tough?
My own experience, and that of my many clients, suggests that we get caught up in the emotions of a situation. When life slaps a glass -or a bucket – of bitter aloes in front of us, what do we do? We tend to drain it – dutifully […]
Like emotional abusers the world over my emotionally abusive ex was NOT a nice man. As time has moved on, I’ve put more distance between him and me, and healed progressively. As I’ve healed, there has been a constant effort on my part to make as much sense as I possibly could out of the […]
I was speaking with a lovely lady in Australia about emotionally abusive partners, when she said: “Annie I love it when you write about how a good partner behaves. I wish you’d write more about it.”
One reason I often don’t is this: my lovely partner is as modest as he is delightful. He actually feels […]
Have you ever thought that there might be something you’re missing about your emotionally abusive relationship?
When I was with my emotionally abusive husband that thought used to hit me at regular intervals.
I’d spend a LOT of time asking myself the Usual Questions:
How can he treat me that way (aka What have I done to deserve […]
emotionally abused woman’s frustration
Have you ever thought that there might be something you’re missing about your emotionally abusive relationship?
When I was with my emotionally abusive husband that thought used to hit me at regular intervals.
I’d spend a LOT of time asking myself the Usual Questions:
How can he treat me that way (aka What have I […]
“It’s not about feeling like a victim, or giving myself a hard time,” M. said, “I just want to know why my emotionally abusive ex is happy with his new woman, and why I don’t matter to him.”
In an ideal world, an emotionally abusive man would – sooner, rather than later – either feel the […]
Living with an emotionally abusive partner is a dangerous and damaging thing to do. Unfortunately, getting him out of your bed, isn’t enough to get his toxicity out of your system. Here are the Top 10 After-Effects most emotionally abused women are left with.
Endlessly rehashing your emotionally abusive relationship. Why? You lived it. You did the […]
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