Why women stay with an emotionally abusive husband long after they should have left is a mystery to the people who stand on the sidelines looking on. Onlookers cannot understand what drives a woman to keep on giving a toxic relationship chance after chance, in the hope that it will mutate into something beautiful.
Even those […]
‘Do emotionally abusive men know they are abusive?’ is a question often asked by their emotionally abused partners.
Why do victims of abuse need to ask?
Because they are looking for an answer that will make them feel better.
Do emotionally abusive men know they are abusive? – the preferred answer
When emotionally abused women ask “Do emotionally abusive men know […]
Emotional abuse makes you poor. That is a simple fact of life. Any woman who has ever been in an emotionally abusive relationship knows to her cost that the relationship makes you way poorer than you ever deserved to be. In every conceivable way.
Yet most women struggle to understand why this was bound to happen, […]
Are you too sensitive for an emotionally abusive partner? Is that – another – fault he reproaches you with? Is it possible that he could be right, albeit for entirely the wrong reasons?
This weekend, I held my first workshop in Denmark, for a wonderful group of Danish women. Fortunately, their English is wonderful, since my Danish […]
Emotional abuse steals your future
Emotional abuse steals your future. Guaranteed. So why is that not something most emotionally abused women think about? Rather, they think, a lot, about the fantasy future they have been robbed of. Mostly to the point of obsession.
When your partner has morphed into Mr Nasty from’ Prince Charming’ – or other member […]
Who do you learn how to deal with abusive people from?
How to deal with abusive people is, quite probably, one of the most essential recovery skills you need to learn. It’s also the skill that abusive people really don’t want you to learn, for obvious reasons.
Normally, the people from whom you learn how to deal […]
The inner cringe at emotional abuse is something that anyone who has ever been in a toxic relationship has done a thousand times. The word “cringe” itself – defined as to: “bend one’s head and body in fear or apprehension or in a servile manner” describes perfectly how an emotional abuser teaches you to respond.
It […]
Christmas is the hardest time
For emotionally abused women Christmas can be the hardest time of year. The hype of Christmas becomes a magnifying glass through which everything that’s not right with their lives is judged – remorselessly.
Of course, that begs the question: by whom is it judged?
Obviously, by those people in their lives who first […]
An emotionally abusive relationship is a journey into darkness. It’s like venturing further and further into a fog; one of the – now fabled – pollution-generated fogs we used to have in the UK. Those fogs were rightly called ‘pea-soupers’ because they were as thick and solid as a split-pea soup. (Well, my split-pea soup […]
Let’s start with the basics. Emotional abuse is incredibly hard to recognise for what it is, let alone deal with, when you’re in it, because you can’t possibly see it for what it is. As you see it, you’re in a relationship with another human being – it’s about you and him.
In practice, something very […]
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