Abusive Partners

How To Defuse Emotionally Abusive People

How to defuse emotionally abusive people is one of the questions I get asked a lot. If you have an emotionally abusive partner, the likelihood is that you have been trained to take responsibility for his behavior.  Of course, this doesn’t just apply to an emotionally abusive partner, it is the pattern of all emotional […]

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What are you telling them?

 
The woman I was talking with was strong, vocal, out there. She was, she said, a BIG personality, absolutely NOT a push-over for an emotionally abusive partner.  Rather, she was someone ‘who intimidated the crap out of men’.  That was a problem for her.  It wasn’t so much that men ran for the hills when she […]

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“Hopelessly In Love”, And Weeping – The Saatchi Effect

Emotionally abused women everywhere know what it feels like to be Trinny Woodall, weeping behind her sunglasses, as she sits outside a restaurant with the man she is allegedly ‘hopelessly’ in love with: Charles Saatchi.
Yes,this week, the UK’s poster boy for emotional abuse has been at it again: Charles Saatchi, has been sitting at the […]

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God Bless Charles Saatchi!

For readers outside the UK, it may be perfectly possible not to know who Charles Saatchi is. But emotionally abused women everywhere have cause to be thankful to him. 
Not because he has made a stand against domestic violence. 
Anything but. 
Charles Saatchi has given the world an appalling display of domestic violence.  TWEET THIS 
As one of the […]

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Top 10 Signs of An Emotionally Abusive Man

How do you spot an emotionally abusive man?  Most likely, when an emotionally abusive man first comes a-wooing, he won’t be carrying his: “Aren’t I amazing?  I’m an emotionally abusive man” placard. So, how do you identify him before you get hurt?!
1)     Lack of respect.  Not all emotionally abusive men will show you a […]

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What an Emotionally Abusive Man Really Feels

 Today, we’re going to take a look at your emotionally abusive partner’s emotional range – which means this may well not be a very long article:-)
When you first met your Mr Nasty he may well have given the impression of being in touch with his feminine side.  Now, this could have been a ploy to […]

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Learnings from a Navajo Wedding Vase

So, you’ve been in an emotionally abusive relationship.  What can you learn about relationships from a Navajo Wedding Vase? 
Quite a lot, it seems. 
Not that I knew the first thing about Navajo Wedding Vases, until I cam across this blog post by my good friend Jane Bennett. (http://www.theexpatpartner.com/living-abroad-relationship-pitfalls-a-navajo-vase/)
Jane explains the point of the Navajo Wedding Vase very […]

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A Tale of Two Men

I want to share with you a story of two men – actually, two men who have shaped my world.
The first is the emotionally abusive ex-husband.  I don’t really need to describe an emotionally abusive partner to you, do  I?  You know already him.  All too well.  He’s someone who likes to exercise his power […]

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Kiss and Make Up Time

What happened after your emotionally abusive partner first shattered your trust?  It bears careful examination. 
The first fissure in your emotionally abusive relationship was like a nuclear explosion in your emotional world.  You felt as if your world had been blown apart. That explosion left you feeling devastated, and very, very frightened. 
Chances are, it also left you feeling […]

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An abusive man is a “Failure Coach” by another name

Okay, I’ll admit it, I’ve become hooked on the Olympic Games. That’s something I’d never have imagined.  But… the day when Great Britain wins 6 gold medals in one day, is a rare day, indeed.  And it set me musing…
I was always hopeless at sport.  My parents cheerfully pinned the ‘Hopeless at Sport’ label on […]

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The 5 Simple Steps to Healing from Narcissistic Abuse

Over the next 5 days, I'll send you some lessons and tips that I've found have really helped women to heal from narcissistic abuse.  Starting with the basics.