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how not to make a special case of a Narcissist
You know how, in a narcissistic relationship, you end up always making excuses and allowances for them? On the one hand, you know that their behavior is awful but on the other, they have so much “potential” and the relationship is “special” and…
You know how, in a narcissistic relationship, you end up always making excuses […]
How to talk to difficult people – that you really don’t want to talk to
If you were fortunate enough to live in abuse survivor heaven, you would never need to speak to a narcissistic ex-partner, parent or family member again.
Sadly, in the real world, that is not always what happens.
For one reason or another, you can feel it is incumbent on you to continue to have some kind of […]
Why behaving like a normal adult around a Narcissist won’t work
“Our lives are all about communicating in an adult way. Sulkers can change with loving, people who teach them how to laugh; laughter is contagious. Please have a wonderful life—it’s Short.” So writes “Bettina Sweet” [really?] in the comments on my post about The Low-Down on Sulking.
Clearly, I am not as sweet a person as Bettina […]
How An Emotionally Abusive Partner Becomes Irresistible To You
Many, many emotionally abused women tell me that their emotionally abusive partner “had them at Hello”. It was, they say, love at first sight. Other emotionally abused women say of their emotionally abusive partner, “I didn’t like him at first. But he was so keen on me that I… kind of let myself be frog-marched […]
How good are you with saying “Not my problem”?
How comfortable do you feel with drawing a line in the sand and saying, “You know what? This is actually your problem and I am not going to make it mine?”
Or does it make you feel uncomfortable because it was something that an abuser used to detach from you – most commonly when you most […]
Is it me?
As a survivor of narcissistic abuse, how do those three little words, “Is it me?” connect with you?
When I saw them in my Inbox today, they made me feel very sad.
The email read,
“I keep thinking about joining the Break Free Membership. But then I think is it me? I try to think before I speak. […]
An important learning for survivors of narcissistic abuse from the story of The Three Pigs
What do you think is the biggest hold that a Narcissist has on the people who love them?
In the end, it comes down to fear. That fear manifests in a multitude of concerns including:
I won’t be able to cope on my own – financially or emotionally.
They’ll replace me effortlessly thereby proving how worthless I am.
One […]
5 Ways you could be giving yourself a hard time without even realising it
How kind are you to yourself really?
How often do you tread carefully so as not to hurt your own delicate feelings, the way you would with a friend?
Or when it comes to you, do you tend to adopt the tough love approach – only with the emphasis entirely on the tough piece?
If you are like […]
How I got to rewrite my story despite having given up on myself
Today, I want to share with you how I got to rewrite my story, despite having given up on myself.
Fairly early on in my healing journey, I met the exceptional Face Reader, Glenna Trout. She took me in in one long look and said,
“You’re someone who let’s your clothes do the talking.”
Well, I guess that […]
The 5 Simple Steps to Healing from Narcissistic Abuse
Over the next 5 days, I'll send you some lessons and tips that I've found have really helped women to heal from narcissistic abuse. Starting with the basics.
