Women’s Emotional Abuse Recovery

Just for a moment, I want you to stop and think about what you really owe people.  You see, I am guessing that this may be very different from what you think you owe people. Getting clear on that difference could massively reduce your stress levels and, also, transform the way you feel about relationships […]

This week, we need to come at the problem of abuse recovery from the opposite end of the question.  Instead of what looking at what wounded you, I feel we need to look at what makes you special. But before we get underway, a caveat.
Just in case that, doubting nasty little voice in your head […]

This week, we need to talk about “being a burden”. Recently, the notion of Being a Burden has kept popping up all over the place, for me. When this happens, I like to think it is the Universe’s way of saying, “Hey! You need to be doing something to help exorcise this destructive belief.” Since […]

“Did it really have to be that way?” is the question that you ask yourself over and over again when a bad relationship fails.  Human beings, in general, show no fondness for situations that end in failure and disappointment.  Empaths who feel the need to please others hate an unhappy ending and feel duty-bound to […]

Toxic people are scary. But are they really that smart? If you are to salvage your self-esteem from  your relationship breakup and – ideally, a modicum of financial security  – you need to  stay in your own power.  That means not being overwhelmed and intimidated by the games that a Narcissist plays and the fear […]

My beautiful friend Charlotte* received some stunning jewellery from her husband in the course of her long marriage.  The guy had great taste.  Every piece was exquisite and immensely covetable. She wore that jewellery from time to time, with pride but never joy. That worked for Mr Beautiful Jewellery Picker (BJP). This week we need […]

This week we need to talk about healing the wounds of emotional abuse as we have not talked before.  I want to share with you some new insights that might just shed new light on the old problem of how you relate to others and yourself.
If you were brought up with abusive parents, you were […]

Having a relationship with a toxic, narcissistic partner does not leave you as it found you. Rather your abusive partner identifies every anxiety, every low feeling that you ever had and magnifies it.  .Especially if you did not receive all the love and care you needed -and deserved – from your family of origin, then […]

Have you ever had people say to you, “Nobody’s perfect”?  it’s one of those phrases that should be perfectly harmless.    Still, if that  seemingly harmless phrase/judgement  does not land comfortably with you, you’re not alone in that – and you are not wrong. This week, we need to look at the important if uncomfortable learning […]

Wouldn’t it be nice if, early on in an abusive relationship, you woke up and, Poof! just like that stopped loving your abusive partner?  How many years and how much angst could you have saved yourself? If only people worked like that. Sadly, most people do not work like that. You have had to learn […]