Women’s Emotional Abuse Recovery

Have you ever felt “broken”? If so, how much have your feelings of brokenness related to the breakdown of a toxic relationship? In this article, I want to look at what those feelings of brokenness are really trying to tell you.
“I feel broken” is something that I hear a lot, from survivors of emotional and […]

How do you cope in these tough times? Right now, things aren’t easy for anyone.  However, if you are someone whose personal circumstances were already difficult, as a consequence of an abusive relationship, then losing what “normality and certainties” you thought you had, is even harder.  In this article, I want to share whatever I […]

This week I received a blast from the past, a communication from a decidedly narcissistic family member.  It worked – no doubt, as intended – to unsettle me. I found the old, unhelpful “Yes, maybe they have changed…” thoughts kicking in. These thoughts are a hazard for anyone who has ever been in a close […]

Have ever thought, or been told, that you “attracted the abuser and the abuse”?  Sadly, given the current overlap between self-help and spirituality,  the notion that the victim of abuse attracted the abuser and the abuse is all too common.  In this article, we need to unpack the concept of a victim of abuse attracting […]

Today, we really need to talk about invisibility. Perhaps, given everything that you already have to face in your life, invisibility is nowhere near the top of your list. Perhaps it is not even on your list.  However, anyone who has ever been in an abusive relationship has been made to feel invisible.  That feels […]

It’s that time of year, again.  Having soldiered through the Holiday Season, more or less successfully, now you have to deal with the calendar – and business – throwing Valentine’s Day at you.  And, despite increasing sensitivity to issues that can cause distress – Valentine’s Day still largely escapes unscathed.  We are all meant to […]

Have you ever felt disappointed with yourself because you let yourself be discouraged from pursuing the things that excite you or matter to you? Do you have an issue with goal-setting and goal-hitting? If so, this article will help you understand how that came about, why it is not your fault and what you can […]

This is the time of year when there is significant social and media pressure to look back, look forward and make Resolutions.  If looking back is painful, looking forward is anxiety-provoking and focusing on the Resolutions that you could make to “improve yourself” makes you feel uncomfortable, here’s what to do instead.  These thoughts spring […]

How do you survive trauma? That is a question that I have been asking myself a lot over the past few months.  Because the past few months have provided me with what has felt like a constant, overwhelming supply of trauma. That is why I have been so uncharacteristically silent on my blog and newsletter, […]

How do you cope when you feel like your heart is breaking? Especially when that feeling becomes a long-term problem for you as it does in an abusive relationship.  Narcissists will keep on breaking your heart for as long as you give them access to it.
The disbelief factor
When a reality is too hard to accept, […]